Hey Sarah - I'm like that too. I just don't have the pep I used to. At first, I was like, what the heck is wrong with me, all I did was "..." and I'm burnt! Thinking back, it was a gradual thing. Certain activities definitely bother me more (for you it might be the stress of spending money, for me, I know anything involving bending over or lifting absolutely drains me!!!) I remember gardening a long time ago and I just couldn't finish because I had nothing left). These days, I just try to take it easy and not go overboard on anything. If the dishes aren't done or my house isn't clean, oh well!!!
That was sweet of your husband to bring you out for lunch. I do think that it would be a good idea for him to read the spoon theory with you so he doesn't think that you're sad all the time though - as soon as my husband started to understand what was happening to me - life in this house changed as we used to know it. I think he thought I was depressed too (and I was sad/mad at times because I was tired and/or frustrated). When I started coming to this forum and started seeing that I wasn't alone, it definitely made me feel better
. I'd relate some of the notes that others had written and he was like, "really?". He used to make a few comments here and there about
how things weren't done around here but now, he is way more understanding. I get him to help me with almost everything where lifting is involved and I try (and I stress try) to avoid stressful situations because the stress absolutely drains me too.
The other thing thats changed my life is that I now listen to my body and I don't push myself like I used to. I'm a bit of a perfectionist so it can be difficult but I'm learning (work in progress here...lol)
Take it easy and be good to yourself!