Many of you just accused me of being very judgmental, yet many of your replies to me have been very judgmental. I am entitled to my opinion.
Pat, I was not being rude or offensive, nor was I trying to be.
Yes there are varying degrees of illness. I'm very well aware of this and am no idiot.
And to make a comment that "some ppl's condition might be worse than mine" How do you know what my condition is? With all due respect, you have no idea how I struggle on a daily basis. My lupus has not disabled me (nor will I allow it to diable me) but functioning daily has become a huge challenge for me.
I hurt, I cry, I feel sick. My body aches. There are days I cannot get out of bed due to severe pain.
Just a note: this is a forum for all. Others, like myself, are entitled to their opinions, whether you agree with them or not. You can disagree with mine as I have disagreed with others.
Des: I worked with drug addiction and have a long history with codependency counseling and yes, all addictions are classified the same. True, we need food to live so it's tougher to break that addiction. But all addictions have a premise of void filling.
Many obese people make a ton of excuses as to why they are overweight and some just take ownership and responsibility for why they are large.
My sister was obese and still struggles daily with her weight. She knows her food addiction is something she will struggle with for life. But she certainly never made excuses for being that way. She made herself that way, the same as a drug addict sticks a needle in his veins.
Some of you are going to blow me out of the water for this, but acknowledging your issue will most certainly help deal with the issue.
Certainly some weight issues stem from physical conditions and or meds, but that is not a large #. The majority of obesity is caused from too many calories and not enough exercise. It's an epidemic in the US.
Lynn, you're right, my statement was a blanket statement about
"no one with lupus needs a handicap parking". My bad. It was too general.
I just feel, if you can get to the store to shop (as I do in total pain all the time), then you can walk the extra distance and leave the spots for people who have zero mobility. Judgmental, perhaps, but I can tell you, on a daily basis, I see more "non disabled people" using those spots than ppl who actually look like they are struggling.
I followed a woman once who pakred in a handicap spot. She went into the store, lifted an 18lt of water into her basket. And looked totally fine to me. Was I too assume she was diasbled and not able to park an extra 20 ft?! Should she not have left the spot for someone who really needed it?! I've taken my niece shopping and have had to park futher way b/c all handicap spots where taken and I can assure you, some of the ppl that took those spots were very ABLED bodied!
Maybe I have a bias because of my niece, but it does make me angry when I see people taking advantage.
And in NO WAY was I saying Kari was taking advantage of the situation.
Kari, in no way do you need to defend yourself to me or others. And you did say you would use it only when necessary. Well you are of the few, because I am sure many others would take total advantage of the handicap spot if given the chance.
There are days (like today actually) where my dizziness and joint pain almost kept me in bed. I had to come to work and my parking spot is quite far. Sure, it would be great to park closer, but I'm also grateful I can use my legs to walk. Like I said, prob a bias from watching my niece living a nightmare.
Kari, I do wish you all the best. I know Lupus is tough. I know obesity is hard (My sister struggle with it) and I hope you find your way. I'm sorry if you felt I was making a personal attack. That was not my intention and prob should have made my post when I felt less passionate about
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