Posted 8/22/2007 9:19 PM (GMT -7)
Been through that with my ex for my first son, they were filthy rich and famous and I was working two factory jobs to try to support my son and I. It was so difficult, I make a deal with him that in return for liberal visitation, I would give him primary physical custody and we would share legal custody. Then, not only did they tell my son very bad things about me and estranged him and scared him, he would come for a visit and they would tell him it was his punishment. They were horrible and my son was really torn up by the whole thing. I had to get a lawyer and no one would take them on. It was horrible, I missed so much. I'm so glad you are getting this chance. Men can be so abusive to their kids in this manner, not letting them see their mother and all children need their mom. I'm so happy. One thing that saved my relationhsip with my son was that while they were telling him I didn't care and didn't want to see him and denying my wish to see my son or even to let me talk to him on the phone. I wrote him letters, at one point tactfully explaining what was going on and why I couldn't see him more. After really messing up as a teenager and ending up in a counselling program, the counsellor stood up for me and he found the old letters that seemed meaningless to him as a child and he saw how I tried and tired and didn't give up. It took a lot of guts for him to stand up to his father and his fathers family but he did and is doing better. Well, Good wishes and have fun with your kids. You know, at the time I was so poor, barely making it and I put my son before my own feelings and my ex made me regret that decision. I just wanted the best for my son and couldn't believe that they would do what they did to meand him. Well, take care and have fun! I'm really happy for you!
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