Thanks, everyone. Sometimes, I just have to get it out. And thanks, Carol, LOL about that, you know, I wasn't a spanker and my son as a child didn't do anything to warrant it. In a way, it makes it harder. My sister was brutally strict and believed in spanking and her kids were afraid of her and her husband and I never wanted my children to be afraid of me, because I thought it might keep them from talking to me about important things and it just didn't seem right. My boyfriend is a real southerner brought up spare the rod, spoil the child and came into my son's life too late for the dad thing, his real father hasn't been around since my son was four, and then only for a one day visit. I don't even know where his father is. You're right, my older son did get an earful from my boyfriend and got kicked out of the house once for yelling at me. My youngest son took off up north and stayed with him for a week, and then he was politely deposited back at my door, his brother has been more understanding since then, somewhat. We don't talk much anyway, just about once a month and I try to keep it light.
Rosie, you know, I do seem pretty depressed, I've been running back and forth from the john alot lately and in pain. I think the counselor is a good idea. I would like to see my son get on some antidepressants possibly, if there is one that he can safely take, because it might help him see things a little more clearly and treat others better and not be so nihilistic. Thanks Judi, your input is really valuable. I've put it to my son in the same way, and he usually acts good for a while until I start to trust or get so sick he can get away with stuff. I just don't know how people do it. I guess having a good partner is the key. My bf is good about a lot of things, but he just says," oh well, let him go, he'll learn." Maybe that is the key. And thanks hippi for the hugs and the advice. Maybe I'm wrong to consider his health problems and treat him special, the rest of the world doesn't (well they do, they discriminate against people with epilepsy alot) but I mean, not every employer is like that. and for just understanding and listening and caring, thank you all. I want to get him in the psychiatrist and then see if maybe we can go together some to work on a plan for him to become independent. He doesn't understand that my frustration comes from a fear that if I keep getting sicker, I might not be able to help him anymore. I know its going to take some time, but he's got to make a start.
--Doctors are men who prescribe medicines of which they know little, to cure diseases of which they know less in human beings of whom they know nothing.--Voltaire (1694-1778)
Ills--Sjogrens-Lupus-like AI Disease, Hashis, Vitiligo, spinal stenosis/fusion with plate, salivary/lymphectomies, Diabetes, NAFLD, COPD, RLS, neuropathy, trigonitis, hystero, diffuse brain atrophy
Meds--Plaquenil, Evoxac, Metformin, Synthroid, HCTZ, Estradiol patch, Prosed, Klonopin, Soma, Ultram, Vicodin, Restasis, Albuterol,steroid injections, Protopic & Triamcinolone Acetonide ointments