Great topic!! and I think ALL of us probably need encouragement in this department. Even when you know all the tips, it still requires that you set apart some time for him.
First . . .the viagra improves blood flow . . . thus allowing a possibility of more pleasure (arousal causes blood flow to those intimate areas and heightens sensation there). For women this is normally mostly mental. So if we are exhausted, it is hard to feel "in the mood".
Big tip . . . try physical intimacy BEFORE a meal. Again, its a blood flow issue and once we eat . . . the blood flow is directed toward digestion. This really does help. Its also a great trick if you forgot to take something out for dinner . . . "Oh sweetie, I'm so glad you are home, lets play before we eat" . . . then, afterward "Uh oh . . . I was SO thinking about
you that I forgot to plan dinner!" he hehe he .
Tip . . if you aren't in the mood, PRETEND you are . . . get a mental image of some of your first great times together and go for it!!! Again, this is a mental thing for most women. For men, it is very visual. They really won't mind if you ask for a little lotion on your back, arms, legs, etc. and this might help too.
Tip . . . so what if you aren't in the mood. If you aren't half dead with pain and fatigue, give the poor guy a hand!!! He will SO appreciate it. Get a really good lubricant (for this, an oil is great) and warm it up in your hands and go to town . . . don't be shy . . . he'll love it! and he deserves it.
Tip . . . when you don't use it . . . you lose it. The more your body is pleasured, the more easily it is to be aroused. Some mental things you can do are . . . wear some really yummy scent. Wear great undies (ones YOU like). . . park the kids at moms for a couple hours and have a date at home . . . bring some yummy appetizers to the bedroom for after . . . Expect to enjoy it . . . you just might (and even if you don't, he will). A special vibrator might help if you both like that idea.
Tip . . . if you take an anti-depressant, it just might inhibit your ability to climax . . . if its ok with your doctor, skip the anti-d on the day of your fun time and see if it helps.
I hope lots of you have more tips . . . I could use some too!!
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