If you live in a Community Property state, an annulment may not get you what you are expecting... I looked into filing taxes as "married filing separately" but because I live in a community property state, I would gain no tax advantage filing separately from my hubby. I think the same thing applies to SSI and other assistance programs too - contact the nearest Social Security Office. They can tell you more about this.
As for the "pre-existing illness clause" in insurance, yes it is true that going from one policy to another usually helps to circumvent this. However, individual or self-pay plans may not have to follow the rules - you should contact your state's Insurance Commissioner's office to find out what the rules are.
It is illegal for an employer to fire you strictly because you have an illness - the law is the American's with Disabilities Act and it includes things like chronic illnesses in addition to physical disabilities. A lawyer would be the best source of information about this if you want to persue things further. But you will need proof that the company is trying to oust you - your telling the judge about what your boss told you may not be proof enough. A letter, email, or recorded conversation that clearly indicates the company's desire to fire you specifically because of your illness would be the type of proof you would need.
I hope this helps. Take care,
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