In London Again

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   Posted 10/18/2007 12:37 PM (GMT -6)   
I am here again in London with twin, back to the Lupus specialist.
I had an AWFUL experience - he was a 'groper'.  I was in the wheelchair and he took my head in a gentle arm lock and kissed me near the lips and stroked my head and I dislikeed him intenselyl
I asked him to do some tests as I was now getting too sick to travel but he would not.  Nothing is being done in my own country and what was I to do?
My doc in Ireland was agreeable about me coming but look what happened.
I called in twin who was in the waiting room and he then seemed to be a little less aggressive and tried to explain mixed -connective tissue disorder and that I had the signs of several.  I had asked for an MRI as I had not one since 04 and he told me he did not want me to spend my money that it is VERY expensive, thats when he kissed me and me in tears.
I told him I had come to London because I was in a terrible way and I would spend what it took to get tests done.
He also refused the lip biopsy and the muscle biopsy.
My twin and I then contacted another professional and agreed that it was right and proper to ask for the MRI as he feared that I might be clotting in the brain so we went and booked one in another hospital.
Even though the groper explained alot, I still was kissed and stroked and I feel very violated.
I am not really sure what to do cos I think you may know I was in the psych system for a very long time.
My twin went in first cos she is my identical twin and when she came out she whispered 'a groper'
I am really really distressed.
I wont be coming back here again
Ann Ireland

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Date Joined Jan 2005
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   Posted 10/18/2007 7:26 PM (GMT -6)   
Hi Ann,

I have written three responses now and erased them all . . . I don't want to just close this thread and say nothing. You unquestionably feel violated and he should know exactly how you feel.

I'm not sure if a wheelchair makes him feel like he can treat you more like a child????? I actually made the mistake of treating and adult man like a child because of his wheelchair and his cerebral palsy . . . what I didn't know, was that he was actually a tutor at a nearby college!! When I realized he was a completely competent adult, I found it necessary to go to him and apologize . . . it turns out, he had been enjoying my mothering!! Anyway, we had an peer to peer relationship after that.

It sounds like you AND your sister felt violated. What a horrible feeling. I would go with your gut and find another doc . . . but that fellow really needs to know how he made you feel. If you can't tell him in person, you need to do it in writing. And depending on that kiss . . . he should be reported. Inappropriate behavior should not be tolerated from anyone . . . especially a doctor. I've received a pat on the head here and there . . . but a kiss????? Uh uh.

I'm glad you got the go ahead for the MRI from someone. I hope you'll keep us posted.


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