Hi Alan . . . welcome to the Lupus Forum,
Alan, I'm sorry your pain is bad and gaining momentum. It compounds our pain when we can't find the reason for it and I can hear your frustration in trying to find the cause.
Lupus can certainly cause some really strange undoings in our body . . . but most of what you describe can really be attributed to the the spine problems. Compressed nerves can cause wicked pain that seems unrelated to the back. That type of pain is also difficult to treat. (I have some pinched nerve issues myself). But the groin pain sounds like it could be unrelated to the back (like hip joint issues or prostate). I'm certainly NOT a health care professional . . . just a fellow chronic pain sufferer . . .
What makes me want to think Lupus is not a big concern is that none of your issues are bi-lateral (both sides). Frequently (but not always) lupus will cause pain on both sides (both hands or both knees etc.)
Which of your issues make you think you might have Lupus?? If you look at my signature, there is a link "Lupus Criterea 4 of 11". If you click that link, you will see 11 symptoms or criterea that help diagnose Lupus. A doctor looks for you to have 4 of the 11 for a positive dx. There are also some other links in my signature that will give you lots of Lupus info, including the "Lupus Resource" link which contains a post with tips from all our members.
I hope some of the others will see your post and maybe be able to help. There are also a couple of members here who are men, so I'm hoping they may see your post and comment as well.
Keep us posted as you try to figure this out.
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