Posted 10/28/2007 12:38 AM (GMT -6)
If you are really feeling lousy, please don't feel obligated to go. It might be bad if you got down there and got really sick and ended up in the hospital down there and that could cause more disharmony with your friend than just not being able to go down. I'm sure she would understand, though she may miss you so much she isn't picking up on your hints. My parents do the same thing with me and there have been times I really regretted going down to visit them and letting them kind of guilt me into it even though I wasn't well enough to go. They don't mean to, they just love you and want to see you. But healthcare in Florida is catch as catch can depending where you are at and I've not good things to say about many of the large medical centers here, not so much from the doctors and complete failure of the support staff (like nurses) to follow a doctors orders and take proper care. Like most places Florida has a real shortage of nurses. Of course, maybe the right thing to do is to force yourself to, maybe you will regret not going and maybe the weariness of travelling will be the only problem you have and it will wear off once you rest after you arrive. But if in your heart you know you shouldn't go, and you can talk with your family about it, price of the ticket shouldn't be too big a deal because they will refund some and its better than you ending up stuck in Florida, in the hospital away from your friends and doctors, which could happen if you aren't feeling well. And the airlines won't let you fly if you are too ill. I know how you feel to some degree and I just want to say that I support you in whatever you feel is right in your heart for you to do. Only you know your body and its not like you planned to make plans and get sick, it just happened. I'm sure your family will understand and perhaps could help you in explaining if you don't feel you should go. But if you are going to try to go and feel like you can make it there and back, then that is good too and I send good thoughts and prayers for a safe and fun and healthy trip for you. I just feel your doubt and that little voice is often right and then we regret when we don't listen, but it could just be some fear too. When I was on heavy narcotics, I had this problem frequently because I felt good enough I would make all these plans forgetting how stressful it really was and how sick I really was and then I ended up having to be rescued and stuff because something would happen and I couldn't drive home or whatever. I also had a friend who I believed was a very close friend get mad when I came to visit and was on chemotherapy and had so many problems. I had trouble doing anything and I wasn't mentally up to snuff and my hair was falling out in gobs and I was on really strong narcotics and this friend just flipped out at me, like how dare I come to visit being so sick and it was really weird because they felt so bad about how sick I was they were totally frustrated they could do nothing for me and it came out as anger at me and it was a very uncomfortable situation and I haven't spokend to this ex-friend again. Some people can't really handle seeing their friends sick. Also, if you are afraid your friend is not going to understand if you can't come down because you are ill and you go down there anyway, she's may not understand when you can't keep up with her pace or do the things she wants to do. If she understands that possibly you cant' make it down due to illness, she will likely understand that you may not be able to do alot once you get there. I don't mean to discourage you, I just want to be on your side in thiss and not have something bad happen away from home, but I also want you to do the things you want to do for fun too. Only you really know inside if you are really up to it and forcing yourself to get through it may not help keep your body from screwing you over. If only you had your own leerjet so you could be wherever you wanted to be at a drop of a hat, and your own personal doctor and treatment room. Just a thought, but maybe travelling in a large camper where you have a bed and a toilet might be a more comfortable way for you to travel, though expensive. Just a thought, that's what my stepmom and her ninety year old mother do and her mother could never handle traveling any other way. Well take care, Barbara and know I will pray for you to whatever you do and I do hope you are well enough to travel, because your head and heart want to. Let's hope God listens and lets you have a wonderful trip.
--Doctors are men who prescribe medicines of which they know little, to cure diseases of which they know less in human beings of whom they know nothing.--Voltaire (1694-1778)
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