An Alternative Healing - Forgiveness

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wacko woman
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   Posted 1/20/2009 10:13 PM (GMT -6)   
I received the following from a friend of mine (she is a physical therapist). It was her new years greeting so to speak. I have edited it to keep it private, but I was deeply touched by her reflections so I thought I would share.

"Every year I picking a symbolic word for the coming year to meditate on. Last year I picked the word forgive I think forgiveness is the most powerful word in our language. It’s complex, yet simple. When you focus on something it’s amazing the power and lessons that are gained from it.

It started with a friend at work and I reading the same book. The book talks about forgiving the past, the present, and the future. Every morning we would jokingly begin the day with, “I forgive you ...(fill in a name).., … I forgive you ..…” etc. Before long I started believing it. I consciously started forgiving everyone I could think of, including myself. As I started doing this it became disturbing at times. Some sleep was interrupted and there was discomfort. What I realized was that I was holding onto all kinds of garbage. And cleaning out the junk can be painful. Memories would come to mind that I had long forgotten. I would say in my mind several times a day, “I forgive you.” It has had powerful changes on the inside of my heart. It has begun a process of feeling OK. I see why Jesus talked about forgiving seventy times seven, because it is not an overnight process and things take time.

I realized I was taking things personally. I was holding on to grudges that were silly. It has helped in letting go of attachment to political beliefs and outcomes. Through forgiveness I’ve realized a stronger compassion for people. We’re all doing the best we can. We’re all children of God loved equally. The things we do on the outside are just behavior coming from our pain inside.

This past year my dear friend passed away. I was able to spend the evening before her death with her. She began sharing that she too had chosen a word for the year, and her word had been forgiveness, as had mine been. You could see the transformation in her spirit and the attitude toward those in her life. It had allowed her to find peace. I will cherish that last conversation with her forever. I forgive her for leaving me.

It is incredibly freeing to know everything is forgiven. It takes away much pain and creates much acceptance. After all, isn’t what we’re all seeking love and acceptance? Forgiveness takes away painful judgments of others. You don’t have to waste all that time on them because you’re just going to forgive them anyway.

There will never be outer peace until we have inner peace. Most of us are seeking the next great external thing whether it is things, toys, people, titles or experiences. But none of this brings what we’re looking for like love and forgiveness will.

I hope this finds you full of peace and love, knowing all is forgiven."

Be Blessed,

Post Edited (wacko woman) : 1/20/2009 8:18:55 PM (GMT-7)

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   Posted 1/21/2009 1:17 AM (GMT -6)   
Thank you for sharing is well-timed for me to read this tonight.
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   Posted 1/21/2009 5:37 AM (GMT -6)   
Thanks from me too. dorit

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   Posted 1/21/2009 12:47 PM (GMT -6)   
Me too. Name of the booK? I have one called Feelings buried, never die.

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   Posted 1/21/2009 4:42 PM (GMT -6)   
I would also like to read that book. We do try to hold on to our suffering and blame others. I have to work on this all the time. There is a saying that goes something like, "If not for the grace of God, there goes I". Sometimes if we dig deeper we can understand which helps us to forgive. Sometimes there is no explanation other than evil and then forgiveness does not mean embracing or condoning the person or thing that has harmed you; it means letting go and freeing yourself.

wacko woman
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   Posted 1/22/2009 4:57 PM (GMT -6)   
It isn't from a book, it was a friend of mine who is a physical therapist that wrote it. She spent the year 'studying' forgiveness, how it affected her body when she thought of a past event,how she felt when she thought about anger she carried toward someone, etc. When we relive the past, our bodies react the same way as if we were going thru the situation again. That is trauma over and over again. It is a sobering thought.

I was listening to a someone on the radio the other night. She was a therapist who works with AIDS patients. She works with them about the issue of forgiveness. If they want a sense of peace, and a chance to heal, they have to forgive. She had a patient that said to her, "But do I have to forgive EVERYONE?", and she answered, "If you had the flu, then you probably would not have to forgive everyone, but you have AIDS and your body and spirit is overwhelmed with all that you are carrying. You are too sick to not forgive everyone." Another rather sobering thought.

I have spent a lot of time on this forgiving stuff. I have learned to forgive so much in my life these past 5 years (including the Lymes), but I still have one place in my life that I get hung up on. So I am practicing saying "I forgive you", over and over. (I forgive you for doing this, I forgive you when you ......, etc.) It isn't about whether the person needs the forgiveness or not, it is that I need to forgive. I think I am giving myself permission to be upset over the issue, then giving myself permission to forgive myself also.

All I know is that my world is shifting as I do this. And it is good.

Be Well,
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