That is beautiful! Your husband is a very special person, and you are too! The thing with family and friends is that nobody really knows what you are going through, even the ones who do care. Except it sounds like your husband really understands. Your posts on here are helpful to all of us, and even though we will probably never meet I feel a sort of friendship is happening between all of us on this site.
I think people prefer to be in denial of pain and suffering. If they don't have to look at it face to face, they can avoid thinking about it. It doesn't make them bad people. We are all on our own journey, and they will have their own tests and trials.