, I have never been very good at this (obviously!), but I believe it, it is absolutely true. I've never had success meditating, but have never had formal instruction either.
I'm just here to tell you this. I DO know that this forum is an important support system and I do believe we all need to feel free to discuss our infirmaties (sp?), troubles and pains w/ each other, because others in our life are sick of hearing about
them. We also need to share information, successes, suggestions, etc etc.
But I also KNOW that it does NOT help to get up every day w/ these thoughts going thru our heads: 'I can't get up, I am so tired, all I feel is pain, I hurt so bad, I am so sick, I am so sick, I am so sick.'
Because our body does listen to what we are saying.
And then we come to the forum and start reading about
new symptoms and we are so intune to our bodies and so intent on fighting this disease that we start noting every single feeling and every single little nerve in our bodies and then we reinforce it.
I have as much or more difficulty as the next guy w/ positive thinking. And the hard part of this disease is the physical depression that goes along with it (as well as the fatigue) Because depression prevents us from even being able to TRY more positive thinking! The depression helps keep us down. And maybe that is one of the necessities for this bacteria to struggle for survival. Because maybe if we were strong enough to fight, maybe we could beat it.
Anyway, I came to respond to your post because you asked 'how does one get started.'
I find it very difficult to do the positive visualizations, relaxation exercises, etc that go along w/ this type of healing. HOWEVER, I also strongly believe in affirmations. By affirmations, I mean making statements over and over and over, whether I have difficulty in believing them or not.
I believe we HAVE to keep making them, to try to offset the negative statements we are making day in and day out: 'I am so sick. etc' I believe that if we tell ourselves and our bodies these things ENOUGH, our body and our mind will eventually get it and listen. I have been very bad about
doing this the past few years, but I am going to work hard to get back into this mode.
I waited tables for almost 20 years w/ a bad back and neck. I was a single mom
and had to support 3 kids by myself. I worked at a great, busy, bar and grill. I look back and can hardly believe what I did. I busted my butt day in and day out, probably 70% of the time in pain. But I was making a decent living and I could NOT succomb to fatigue and pain! Further, I HAD to have a positive attitude in order to bring in the tips. I quickly learned that being sick, feeling sorry for myself, having a bad day, going thru a rough divorce, feeling overloaded w/ responsibilities, etc would NOT bring in the tips.
But surrounding myself w/ a positive 'aura' at all times kept the money rolling in. At work, I was an actress. I was always UP and working hard to be FUN. I aquired a fantastic clientel and was the most requested server the place ever had. I was so in shape I wore ankle weights to keep my waitress legs in shape.
Sorry, BRAG, BRAG, BRag. (now I'm a mere shadow of my former greatness.....)
One point in all this is that I practiced affirmations. Constantly, all day (on and off), I repeated these affirmations in my head and often out loud. I said them even when I did not believe them. I just said them. Here are the 2 that I made for myself (and sometimes still use, but need to get back into the habit.
'I am incredibly strong, healthy and young.' (say 3 times for each 'set')
' My entire body is totally free of all pain, disease and fatigue'. (same)
You can create your own, but I think it's important to not use any negative words. Like, don't say, 'My illness is getting better.' Because that is acknowleding that you are ill. Say, 'my body is free of illness.'
Here is an affirmation my mother
uses: 'Every day, in every way, I'm getting better and better.' She is almost 80, takes all the typical old folk's pills, etc. Walks every day, swims every day during swim weather. Takes yoga, does back exercises. She looks great, looks and is happy, and is fun to be with. Her grandchildren LOVE being w/ her.
Another thing that might help 'non believers' get started. When feeling low and tired, I would get under a light, close my eyes and picture that the light was actually the sun. And for me the Sun would be a symbol of my God over me, spreading light and warmth over me. And I would visualize sucking in all the sun's warmth and energy, basking in it and declaring that it was bringing me energy.
I am sure others have better, more intense methods of mediation and self healing. But I have to use these for now, because I cannot concentrate or get my mind quiet on anything -- and I think it's hard for those w/ Lyme to concentrate or meditate, if they have the cognitive issues.
I really do think it's important that even if we are on this forum complaining, that we leave all that part OUT of our personal lives. Because it's not causing anyone to love us any more. It's only bringing us down. I am NOT saying that you shouldn't be bedridden if you ARE bedridden. But I'm saying that we need to work hard to not CONSTANTLY REINFORCE all our pains and illness.
shew, sorry so long, but I truly believe that this may help some people here. I'm getting back on it again right away. It is EASY once you start repeating your affirmations to yourself all day. It becomes a habit and even if it becomes kind of OC, so what? It's positive.
AGAIN, create your affirmations and repeat and repeat and repeat, even if you do not believe them, SAY them!
I truly believe that constantly repeating, 'I'm so sick. I can't get better. There is no end in sight.' will help this bacteria survive.