For my mother's sake I wish I could legally get my brother's ashes. I don't know if I should talk to an attorney. I just want my mother to have some sort of peace and closure.
Denise, you do not have to have ashes for closure. Closure is in you memories, it is in the wind, in that special song, in the beautiful sunset.
You and your Mom can speak and visit with your brother at any time you so desire...it does not have to be in an urn or a place where his ashes are scattered in the wind.
Maybe you could plan a gathering with close family and friends where you remember and tell wonderful stories of your brother. Have some pictures blown up...share, laugh and cry with your friends and family. Do something that was special to your brother. Maybe that will help bring some type of closure for you and your Mom.
I know, I lost my son on 12/2/06 in a work accident at the age of 25. We had to go thru alot of legal crap as well. Long story.
He too was cremated and we did not get the ashes. He loved to fish, oh fishing was his life, that and singing off tune to every country song there was. We went to Tybee Island, GA where he loved to fish, early one summer morning to watch the sunrise. We cast our poles, sang off tune to his beloved country music, cried and rememberd him with much love and joy.
We came home and planted a lovely tree in the yard with a bench by it. We sometimes sit on that bench and reflect.
There will always be a piece of my heart missing.