I can't tell you enough how much all of your words touched my heart. Thank you.
What is agonizing is how my brother's wife handled everything. She is not a nice person and after my brother passed, she didn't consult my family (even though she has been close to my family) about any funeral arrangements, she didn't ask if we wanted any of my brother's things for memory reasons (for lack of better words).
My brother was not happy with his wife (they were married about 7 or 8 years, I don't remember exactly) and she married my brother for his money as that is what she does (my brother was husband #3). She refused him sex, she did what she wanted. A totally selfish human being. My brother was talking about divorcing her.
What is bothering my mother and myself is that my SIL had my brother cremated 2 days after he passed (we do not know if that was his wishes) and I asked my SIL if my family could have his ashes. She said no.
My mother said to me last night that she wishes she could visit my brother but there is no place to visit him. It would give us a sense of closure which we never got as there was no funeral. The story gets worse about the "gathering" she had (but I'll leave out all the horrid details).
My mother blames my SIL for my brother getting the skin cancer in the first place because she took him to her house in Greece and didn't suggest any sun protection and sure enough, my brother returned red as a lobster with blistering. It was only a short time after that he was diagnosed with the skin cancer.
I know my family needs to let go of all this because we can't change anything.
For my mother's sake I wish I could legally get my brother's ashes. I don't know if I should talk to an attorney. I just want my mother to have some sort of peace and closure.
Ticker, the Star is a great idea.
Thanks again everyone!
Big Hugs to you all,
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