just hope it's herx, because then it would mean you are getting better!!
I fell ill while still nursing a baby (plus 2 bigger kids to care for), I know it can be tough!! I survived without toughening up - I just let myself do as much or as little as I could on each particular day without judging myself. And kids accept that readily (at least mine did). After a while (a long while:))) even my husband stopped picking at me and accepted the state of things.
Probably tick bite August 2007, while 8 months pregnant, February 2008, Dx - Reactive Arthritis,which never ended... Elisa IgM and IgG both Negative, Western Blot IgM - Negative
2nd dx April 2009 - probably seronegative Lyme disease, treatments so far 2 week abx twice, Currently no meds, but naturopathic supplements