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   Posted 6/4/2010 5:22 AM (GMT -7)   
Just when I was starting to feel a little bit better after having a miscarriage a few weeks ago and having my lyme symptoms really flare-up, now my relationship of 7 years is ending and it is making me feel worse again. Why does it seem everything always happens at once? I usually don't come on here to vent or complain, but more to help, but this couldn't be a worse few weeks and to boot, my 35th birthday is tomorrow. Not much in the mood for celebrating and just hoping the coming year is filled with much better things. I never thought I would be a single mother of a two year old and have the stress of taking care of a new house we just bought. All a bit too much right now to think about. If my symptoms returned already I can only imagine how this is going to go.
Ahh...life always has it ups and downs and waiting patiently for an up to come

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   Posted 6/4/2010 6:07 AM (GMT -7)   
Oh Jeminij,
I am so very sorry..  goodness, you have been through so much already!  I remember when I turned 40 (seems like 100 years ago) and I was still married but my husband and I were NOT getting along and I didn't get a BD card and he left the house and I was all alone, I was so darn depressed! 
I just can't believe everything you have been through this past month and now this breakup...  You are so right, when it rains it pours..  Why does it have to be like that? 
As far as your house, is it possible to get a roommate to help with the finances?  In this economy many people are sharing their house to help with finances..  You can even contact a realtor who can screen people for you.    Just a thought.. 
If you want to e-mail me privately just to vent, please do that..  I know the feeling of breaking up and being alone and it stinks not to mention the stress of trying keeping a house during these times..
Hugs to you,
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   Posted 6/4/2010 9:55 AM (GMT -7)   
Hi Jeminij,
Again, my sympathies to you. I'm sure it's all so over-whelming. Hang in there!
You can also email me to vent if you would like.
My heart goes out to you.

Sending healing thoughts and hopefully peace to your mind
It's been said:LD patients can be as ill as people w/ congest. heart failure & in as much pain as post-op patients.

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   Posted 6/4/2010 12:44 PM (GMT -7)   
Jeminij, I am truly so sorry for all you are going through. You've been through so much recently but hang in there and trust that things will get better...they really will. I'm sending big hugs and positive thoughts your way along with wishes for a happy birthday tomorrow.

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   Posted 6/4/2010 1:45 PM (GMT -7)   
Thanks. It is so good to get some kind words right now. I have family very close by thank God that help me so much. Not sure yet what is going to happen. If he moves out I will have to get a roommate. I worked too hard to get this house to let it go. Plus, it's a big 4 bedroom so I have plenty of room for someone and have some family options if it comes down to that. Just funny that a month ago I was planning for another baby and now I am likely going to end up a single mother of a toddler which is not something I ever wanted for her (I have parents who hate each other still 20 years after their divorce), but figure it's best to have it happen now and now when she's older. At least now she won't remember otherwise. But, going to try to not think about it and try to enjoy my birthday tomorrow and make some much needed wishes with this one.

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   Posted 6/4/2010 5:36 PM (GMT -7)   
Awwwwwwww hun, I sure hope things get better for you soon. I am so sorry you are going through this. Keep your head up and don't give up! I know it is hard, but things will come back together again. It just takes time sometimes.
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   Posted 6/4/2010 10:15 PM (GMT -7)   
Jeminij, so sorry for your loss, Jeminij :o( That hurts so bad.

So glad you can come here to "vent" share whatever is on your heart. You have encouraged others now it is your turn to be on the receiving end.

You share, "Life always has it ups and downs and waiting patiently for an up." Well, you have had more than your share of downs lately. Plus being a single mom...my "hat is off to you, girl". My mom and one of my sisters were single moms. Not easy, not easy, not easy!! BTW, did I say being a single mom is not easy? Yeah, I thought so. You and your precious little one are in my prayers. May God give you strength.

I just noticed the time...it's tomorrow already. May your Birthday be more"up" than you have imagined and praying that the year ahead is filled with lots of "ups"!!!


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   Posted 6/5/2010 7:21 AM (GMT -7)   
Do you think maybe all that is happening is just too much for your partner right now and he just needs some time to cool off? I know we go through some really down periods and I'm sure it's going to end, but eventually things get better again. Marriage is so much harder than we go into it believing it will be, and sometimes we just expect so much from each other. I know sometimes when I think my husband is just not there for me, I realize I have not been there for him either. I hope things turn around for you and all of this stress is soon behind you :)

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   Posted 6/5/2010 9:25 AM (GMT -7)   

I don't know you (I'm on now kinda hit and run), but want to extend my thoughts and prayers to you. I am especially sorry that you are having to face all this while sick w/ Lyme, because Lyme makes everything worse.

My first pregnancy ended w/ a miscarraige and so I understand the sorrow that brings. And unfortunately, no one else truly understands how bad it hurts. So I extend to you my sympathy in this loss.

I also had to end my marriage after 17 yrs, with a 7 yr old daughter and 2 adolescent boys. Thank God I was not sick because it took every ounce of strength that I had. Now, over 20 yrs later, I cannot say that everything turned out alright, because it really didn't -- all of us still carry hurt in some way. But I guess this is true for everyone.

You will be OK, I am sure of that. But you need to grab onto every drop of support and strength you can get your hands on. We can always hope that this is happening so that something better can now happen, right?

Say your prayers and say them hard.
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   Posted 6/5/2010 4:36 PM (GMT -7)   
When one door closes...there is always another one to open.. Take care...

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   Posted 6/5/2010 7:59 PM (GMT -7)   
Thank you so much everyone. I had a good birthday today. Spent it with my daughter and family and my fiance. He seems to want to work things out so we'll see what happens. Marriage is hard and we aren't even technically married. We've been together 7 years and have lived together that long and having a 2 year old and losing this baby has been really hard on both of us. Then I got sick after and that didn't help matters as he had to step up and do more than what he is used to. It def. isn't easy and hopefully things will work out and turn around for the best. He is willing to try so I am going to allow that to happen and we'll see where we end up.

So overall, things are ok for now. Tomorrow is another day and my focus is on recovering from this setback and maybe good things will be in the future. I sure hope so. We all deserve it given how much we all have to deal with on a regular basis. A new year starting so doing my best to put my best foot forward and enjoying all that I do have.
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