Might try contacting local area churches to see if they have caregiver support services.
Also, talk to a Social Worker at a local hospital for caregiver support and any other help (financial, house cleaning, shopping, doctor visit ride assistance, etc.) for which you & your Mom might qualify.
You might also look into Adult Day Care programs.
If your Mom has Medicare, call them and ask if they cover home nursing or in-home care (non-medical - they do stuff like run errands, clean house, etc.). Even if the person only comes once a week for a few hours, that's a break much needed for you.
Some grocery stores deliver (I know Safeway does this, others might too).
For family members who don't believe in the existance of chronic Lyme, don't talk about
Lyme. Talk about
your needs and how it makes you feel when they don't believe you. Show your pain to them - it is human nature to hide how bad we feel, but sometimes we really do need to show others how much we are suffering.
Obviously, with dimentia, the previous paragraph doesn't apply to your Mom - there's not much you can do for her to be able to see how much you are struggling.
The only thing that comes to mind is to approach it from the standpoint that you have things you need to do to take care of yourself so that you can be there for her, and then make sure she knows her needs will be met (by services such as home nursing, adult day care, in-home aid, etc.).
I hope this helps...take care,
Chronic Lyme, Bart., Gluten & Sulfite Sensitivity, Many Food/Inhalant/Medication/Chemical Allergies & Intolerances, Asthma, Gut dysmotility & non-specific inflammation, Lupus, Osteoporosis, etc.; G-Tube
Meds: Flagyl, Domperidone, Claritin, Singulair, Andrographis & other herbs, homeopathy, supplements, etc.
Post Edited (Razzle) : 4/22/2012 6:48:40 PM (GMT-6)