Lyme and co are very hard on relationships.
My husband never knew the real me, since I've been ill for so long, but he has experienced me getting worse and becoming a complicated person. I used to be so relaxed and uncomplicated...
He tries to understand, but then he forgets that it is a constant thing. That there are no good days after a good night sleep. I understand that it's difficult to understand how our lives are...
I can get so mad when I feel that an effort that I have done to do something in the household is not respected. I tell him that what I do requires so much energy that him ignoring it is like stepping on me.
I sometimes apologize for my anger outbursts, but I don't take all the blame, don't want him to think that it is always my fault.
At the beginning of my treatment, when herxing was new, I've been on the point of telling him that it's over tens of times... I have that under controll now, even when I'm herxing. I think that it's better not to act too impulsive...
I used to feel frustrated when I couldn't do things in the house, now I tell him that this and that needs to be done, if he can do it. I think that it works better for a man (sorry, I don't want to judge, please forgive me if I offended someone in any way) when telling him that this or that needs to be done instead of waiting for him to notice that something needs to be done. Just 2 days ago, I was getting angry, and he said 'you know what would be better and easier, causing less discussions? Just make me a list of what I need to do, that way I won't be forgetting things'. So now I write on our whiteboard what needs to be done.
Non-Violent Communication is a good book, I would advice everyone to read it...
This is an interesting site:
Don't loose hope
Lyme & Bartonella. Sick for about
19 years (34 now). Started treatment August 2012 with abx (ILADS protocol, different combinations) + Buhner's Core Protocol. Leaky gut, heavy metals, EBV, XMRV, erythema nodosum, Hodgkin's Lymphoma at 15, Lyme arthritis, many neurological symptoms, food allergies/intolerances, histamine/chemical intolerance and much more.