I know what you are talking about
first hand. I have flipped out over nothings, only to then choose to go over the situation in my head, figure out what/where/how/why/when and discuss this with the Other (fiance, usually.) Together we then brain storm, and I try to figure out how/what to do differently so to not go down that road again. Most times I find these situations are triggered by something (hunger/tired/external & internal stressers/etc.). Lots of work, but better than not trying, for me.
Even though so much of this for me is from the brain inflammation/tbd, I'm learning that for me, it's trial and error. As I'm learning and staying
open to understanding, I am able to make needed changes. Support certainly helps.
Am I 100% successful? No. Not yet, but probably never will be 100%. I am human. :) I'll take anything closer to 95%. I'm trying, no, I'm doing! So are YOU. Because you are AWARE! Yeah!!!!
Also, try to remember that every area of our lives, EVERY AREA, is changed/touched by this illness(es). Thus, with so many changes and losses we experience across so many areas in our lives, we will go through the GRIEVING PROCESS in every area and with every loss/change, whether we are aware that's happening, or not.
Five stages of grieving: Denial, Anger, Bargaining, Depression, Acceptance.
And, these are not linear, they might/do jump around, back and forth, until you are ready to move on.
I've become accutely aware of this fact, and have brought this fact into my life, making myself aware of how this is happening, and what stages of the grieving process I might be at in each area of my life. Now that's a lot of awareness, but so worth helping to love myself through all the changes.
Isn't that what we need? Learning to love OURSELVES, not the illness/suffering, in every stage we are in, so that we are then ready/able to advance to the next stage? Upward and onward, healing is not stagnant. It's a verb.
If we are asking, seeking, trying, doing ... then we are victorious.
Post Edited (Soaring Free) : 11/30/2014 5:02:36 AM (GMT-7)