Where boundaries are concerned, here are some strategies to consider:
by Sandra K. Berenbaum, LCSW, BCD
•Define where you need help, and keep it concrete – cooking, cleaning, shopping, for example.
•Be aware of times when you begin to get defensive, and take that as a signal that someone
may be crossing a boundary – getting into what is not their business. Learn phrases that reestablish the boundary, like “I know you care about
me, but my medical decisions are not
open for discussion,” or “I appreciate your help with the children, but I am responsible for their discipline. Is there something you’d like me to know about
•Understand what information you wish to be private. Wherever possible, hold private discussions behind closed doors (If, for example, you and your spouse are discussing choices of medical treatment for your children, and grandparents are helping out, avoid holding the discussion in front of their grandparents.)
•When there is conflict, be clear about
the real issue. Is the real issue the decision you’re making, or that someone is questioning a decision they don’t have a right to question?
•Respectfully confront those who continue to cross boundaries. If they do not respect your choices, and will not accept your decisions, perhaps their involvement with you during a time of crisis should be kept at a minimum.
•Take time alone at the end of the day to reflect on the interactions of the day. If there is unfinished business between you and another person, if at all possible, discuss it the next day, and re-establish the boundaries.www.lymefamilies.com/wp-content/uploads/2009/07/Boundaries101_for_Lyme_Patients.pdf
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