I live alone. Well, I live half-time with my two teenaged children, which in some ways is, I think, worse. In some ways, however, it's better. I agree with astroman--if you live alone, you don't really have the OPTION of not working. Which again, is a mixed blessing, I think.
I'll explain. My kids are my company. Along with my pets. And since Lyme has caused me to withdraw from pretty much everyone else, they provide me with essential human connection. But they're teens--they're not good for much in the way of emotional support or getting things done around the house, unfortunately. So when they're here they present an additional layer of physical work for me to do. No matter how many times I nag them, they leave crap around the house, which I then have to clean up.
Pets are similar. They are a source of comfort, but also a source of more work. However I can't really expect my dogs to go out and feed the chickens or mow the lawn when I'm feeling especially weak. I can ask my 16 year old son to do those things--and if I'm lucky, he'll do them (sometimes). :)
Regarding work--I think if I had the ability to quit or cut down on work, I might have at my lowest point. And that might not have been the best thing for me, at the end of the day. Work forced me to get out of bed on days when I just felt like curling up under the covers and crying. Work forced me to get out and interact with people on days that my kids were with their dad. So mixed blessing there too, I think.
Sometimes I really, really wish I had a partner to help take on some of the burden of caring for the house, the two jobs, the kids, the pets. But at other times I'm really, really glad that I don't have to answer to anyone if I want to schlump around the houses all day in my jammies. I don't have to feel guilty if I don't feel like having sex with someone. :) I can do what I want, when I want. So mixed blessing.
I realized I really didn't answer the question. How do I manage? I DON'T have many friends, as Lyme has really caused me to draw away. But the few I do have really helped me through the darkest parts of these illnesses. And this board helped tremendously, too. Despite my antisocial feelings, sometimes you just really NEED someone to remind you that it will be OK, that you're not alone, that someone gives a crap about
you. A couple of friends and this board did that for me on the days when I thought I just couldn't do it anymore. Other than that it's just been a matter of pushing myself. I had no choice, so I did it. But my psychological symptoms were worse than the physical ones. If I literally physically could NOT "do it," I don't know where I'd be.
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