What a wonderful post and how amazing you are to reach out to this community for some Q&A. With that kind of foresight and caring, you will figure this out. I wish more "significant others" utilized this forum as a resource. Being informed and supported is half the battle and loving a Lyme is a battle.
And what awesome posts from some of the members here!
And your girlfriend is lucky beyond words to have you on her team. It's impossible to describe how much this illness can rob of you. My personality changed so drastically I lost nearly all my friends and most of my family doesn't really speak to me. No one knows what loneliness is until they go through something like this alone.
She's clearly made significant progress and yes, this should be celebrated and appreciated. It is pretty difficult to understand when we say our brains and personalities were hijacked - part of this is the shock of becoming ill and dealing with so much. But the other part is a disconnect that occurs with ourselves, our emotions, our memories. It's freaky and scary and very difficult to experience much less describe.
It's really great that she's working through this and asking for a little room - she sounds smart too. Here's a good article on this strange phenomenon - some of it might apply to her. My experience was a little different but I use these articles to try to explain it to others.
What she might be describing is the dissociation and depersonalization that are in the "neurological-psychological" category of symptoms. Many of these are caused by neurotransmitter imbalances but not much is really understood about
Infection can change your personality - there's plenty of proof/www.psychologytoday.com/blog/emerging-diseases/200903/infection-can-change-your-personality-theres-plenty-proof
Depersonalization and derealization from lyme disease and its coinfections - A perpetual mental state of apathywww.tiredoflyme.com/depersonalization-and-derealization-from-lyme-disease-and-its-coinfections.html
As already suggested - give her some space and time, let her move through this process however she needs to. It might also be helpful for you to learn about
Lyme as well. Lyme & coinfections can be sexually transmitted so it's important to know the symptoms. But the best support you can give her is to just understand - not just because you care about
her but also because you really get it because you've learned it. And you can also be a good ambassador for Lyme truths and help others along the way.
Please let us know how things are going and post any other questions or concerns you might have - we're rooting for you.
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Chronic late-stage lyme—likely infected in '98; Clinically dx Mar'14 w/ Babs, Fry Labs+ Bart-like, CDC+ Bb. First treated 4-5 viruses, GI/immune. Herbal antimicrobials in May; IV port-started Rocephin in Nov; added vancomycin Mar'16;
DETOX: Pinella/Burbur/Parsley/Milk thistle/Burdock/Red root; Samento/Banderol/Enula; JK/Turmeric; BFM-1; antifung; many supps; cholestyramine