I'm so sorry this is happening. Is it possible for you to see a therapist?
I also wonder if your husband is taking steroids as that would explain some of his behavior.
Anyway, my ex couldn't handle me being sick and I had to fend for myself even though I worked most of the time I was sick (I was lucky that I didn't have any children). My ex was mean to me, always yelling, etc. The stress got to the point where I asked him to move out and I filed for a divorce. But that was my situation.
When we were still married I avoided talking to him as much as possible (we were like 2 strangers living in the same house). I wrote him letters instead of talking to him which helped.
Again, I think you should seek out a therapist. I saw one and that helped me so much.
Best to you,
13 years well ~ used Dr. Jernigan's protocol from his book about
Biological Medicine (used Borrelogen, Microbojen and Neuro-Antitox). Detox daily, drink Green Vibrance. I come back to help others for others helped me when I was sick. Pay it forward!
Full time caregiver to my elderly Mom who has Alzheimer's.