Thank you, too, Girlie. I also appreciate your comments.
As for diet, I can relate to the ups-and-downs. Some days are better than others. Above, Lymie24 shared some good advice:
If you slip up, which you probably will, don't feel ashamed or down on yourself. Get back on the saddle. You will most likely fail again. It's okay.
That's the approach I currently try to take, but I spent many years mentally flogging myself for making "bad" choices. Doing so, as you alluded, can send us into a negative tailspin.
1. Eat something "bad"
2. Feel guilt or anger about
3. Decide we ruined our plan
4. Question whether having a plan makes sense, if we can't stick to it
5. Eat more "bad" food
6. Go back to #2
With a program like that, there's no escaping negative feelings and a bad outcome. The program has design flaws. It needs updated syntax and additional lines of code.
(My apologies to any software developers for the crude analogy.)
If you haven't already, maybe you could ask your husband for (more?) support. For example, asking him not to bring certain things into the house. Or, if he does, to do so without your knowledge and store them in a place you wouldn't normally access. That might not work for all items, but something is likely better than nothing.
Another member has posted about
using a kitchen safe. When I first read that comment, I thought: "Well a safe wouldn't help me
, because I'd have the key/combination!" But, in Googling it -- as you may already know -- it's a time lock. That's a clever solution...but, maybe not perfect for me, as (1) I have access to a hammer, saw, and drill, and (2) I live near several stores and I could just go get more. Sometimes, I have "issues."
Previously, I'd just not buy certain items. Obviously, if they're in the house, they're going to get eaten. I mean, that's the whole reason I bought them, right? Some people can eat a few bites of ice cream or have a couple of
cookies and be fine for days or weeks. I am not
one of those people.
So, like I noted, I'd just not buy certain items. But, eventually, whether it was the next trip to the store or ten visits later, eventually those Boulder Canyon Avocado Oil Canyon Cut Kettle Potato Chips, Sea Salt
would end up in my cart. If I ignored their call during one visit, they would yell a little louder each subsequent visit. Eventually, I could hear them from the parking lot. And, then, from home.
Therefore, I decided to switch my strategy a bit. While in the store, rather than avoiding the potato chip aisle, I'd purposely pass through it. If I had any
desire for either of the three varieties of chips that I would eat, I'd buy them. Even if my desire was weak. After doing this a few times in a row, I would get burned out on them for a while. During subsequent visits to the store, even if going down the potato chip aisle, I'd feel no desire.
Now, this is a strategy I employed. I'm not saying it's right, a good idea, or would work for anyone else. I'm certainly not recommending it. A single bag of those chips packs 825 calories. My weight has fluctuated up-and-down, during such dietary follies. That's an entirely different set of issues.
Finally, getting back to your contemplation about
"What's the point of eating healthy, if I'm going to 'ruin' it later, anyway?" I know it was a rhetorical question, but I'd still like to comment on it.
If you search the phrase "How much food does a person eat in a lifetime?" you'll read some amazing stuff. But, keeping things simple, let's assume a person eats three meals per day and lives to 75 years old.
* 3 meals per day x 365 days per year x 75 years
* This comes to 82,125 meals.
So, let's say we eat "bad" for one of those meals...every day...for the entire 75 years.
Doing the math, that means 27,375 meals are "bad." However, that also means 54,750 meals are "good."
That's still a lot of opportunities to put good stuff into your body.
Now, of course, this entire situation is hypothetical, makes a lot of assumptions, and leaves a lot out of the equation. That's fine. The point isn't to get mired into such details. Rather, it's to look at the larger picture and realize that, over time, even seemingly small decisions do matter and can make a huge impact.
Post Edited (The Dude Abides) : 5/1/2021 1:46:07 PM (GMT-6)