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Date Joined Apr 2010
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   Posted 4/19/2010 10:58 PM (GMT -6)   
about 3 years ago my son, who was 7 at the time, started complaining of having blinding headaches. Naturally I was very worried and took him to our local doctor who then referred him to a neurosurgeon who performed various tests but could find nothing wrong with him.
After a while it was clear that these 'episodes' were merely an effort to gain my attention (he has been fatherless since the age of 2) and nothing that a short sharp smack with the ruler wouldnt sort out. Anyway they seemed to stop for about a year but have started up again recently. I wouldnt be concerned as he has always been a bit of a hypochondriac (sp?) except I saw him crying in pain through his bedroom window when I dont think he knew I was watching and when I went in and asked what was wrong he said he was having one of his headaches. I dont now what to do as maybe he has just become a better liar and the last thing I can afford right now is more medical bills (I dont have insurance). I read somewhere that most people who calim to have migraines are 'psychosemitic' and my suspsicion is he's still just having me on.. is there anything I can do to get him to buck out of it?

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   Posted 4/20/2010 5:56 AM (GMT -6)   
Dark place, ice pack on the back of the neck and forehead, otc migraine medication, caffine (makes medicaiton more effective), silence, writing a journal of EVERYTHING that he drinks/eats/medication and note when he has a migraine and look for common factors. Like if I have too much caffine I get a migraine.
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Date Joined Apr 2010
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   Posted 4/21/2010 11:31 AM (GMT -6)   
As the mom of a young woman who has suffered for years with constant debilitating head pain and all that goes with it (the isolation, lack of the ability to function, work, or attend school, numerous hospitalizations and procedures, and all the other stuff that those on this forum are all too well aware of) I have read this forum for a long time.  I have done this to learn as much as possible about with my daughter's condition in order to help her and myself (as her caretaker) in any way possible. I have never actually felt the need or inspiration to register and comment until now. This is perhaps the saddest entry I have read in all my time watching this forum. Please do not doubt your son. This is a stigma that head pain sufferers deal with continually. They don't look sick enough, they can fake wellness enough to get by sometimes, often nothing shows up on any of their tests, and then voila! everyone thinks they are either crazy or just faking it. I stood by and actually listened while a teacher told my daughter, " If only you looked half as bad as you say you feel, then maybe you'd get some sympathy." This was her reward for toughing it out and trying to leave as normally as possible. Please, your son's headpain is most likely worse than he is even telling you, and the longer you wait to treat it, the more serious his condition can become. Believe me, I know, we didn't know what we were doing when my daughter's pain began, and by the time we got her where she  needed to be, her once episodic migraines had transformed into constant pain. She now lives with a constant level 8 headache that spikes to a 10 nearly daily. Your son needs you now, and he needs you to believe him. If you don't, who will, and then where will he turn? Please listen to him.

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Date Joined Jan 2010
Total Posts : 197
   Posted 4/22/2010 2:06 PM (GMT -6)   
Dear Paula,

Please do not dismiss your sons pain. I began suffering from migraines at roughly your sons age. What you need to dismiss is that article you read that claimed migraines are psychosomatic. If your son is having migraines, every test a doctor runs WOULD show up normal. That is how migraines are properly diagnosed - by ruling out any other physical cause. Please, please, educate yourself from reputable sources of migraine information. Migraines are a neurological disorder, not a mental health issue.

I can tell from your post that you are not a migraineur. Those of us who suffer with this deal with constant stigma, as Elpis has already mentioned. After all, we don't necessarily look sick, and if the pain isn't too bad, we can still function to a certain level. It is possible that he is in constant pain, but chooses to push through it unless it gets too severe to ignore. My 6 year old tells me that his head hurts all the time, but he chooses to ignore it unless it gets really bad. Very common behavior for a young child who can't stand the idea of being stuck in bed. But he has twice in the past few months come to me crying that his head hurts too much for him to watch a movie. I give him an icepack, sometimes some ibuprofen, and lay down with him in a dark room. When he wakes up, he is usually much better. Since I suffer from frequent migraines, it would have been easy for me to dismiss his claims of headache as copying me. After all, he has seen me spend 31 days since the beginning of January in bed and unable to function because of my migraines, and I have several times wished to be rendered unconscious as an alternative to one more minute of agony.

Obviously, I don't know your son. But I can tell you beyond a shadow of a doubt that it is possible to suffer unbelievable pain from migraines and otherwise look fine. Your description of your son crying when he didn't know anyone was watching breaks my heart, and also tells me that it is likely that to cry like that, he was likely in excruciating pain. Icepack, dark room, some OTC medication, a bit of caffeine and sleep would probably do wonders. I would beg you to follow the advice that SmurfyShadow laid out below. I understand and have been through the no insurance dilemma. Keeping track of your sons food intake takes only a cheap notebook. Write down every time he tells you his head hurts. Don't ask him if it hurts, but do tell him to let you know if it does, and leave it at that. Keep track of his food intake every day for a couple of weeks to get a baseline, and then track it on the days he complains of headaches.

I wish you and your son the best. Please help him.
Fibromyalgia, High BP, Migraines, anxiety

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   Posted 4/24/2010 8:16 AM (GMT -6)   
Elpis and Caligirl very well said! I have suffered from a young age too and am now having to watch my son battle with constant headaches. Please believe that your son's pain is real and understand that headaches and migraines are horrible to deal with. When your head hurts it's hard to think about anything else, it can completely consume you. I hope you can get your son the help he needs and please take care of yourself as well!
Gentle Hugs,
Fibromyalgia, Chronic daily headaches, Migraine disorder (with and without aura), GERD, High blood pressure, Depression and Anxiety
Oxycontin, Percocet for bt/pain, Flexeril as needed, Lopressor, Lexapro, Famotidine, and Promethazine as needed for nausea from migraines

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Date Joined Apr 2010
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   Posted 4/24/2010 2:25 PM (GMT -6)   
Migraines are very real and everyone has a different experience with them. I started getting them when I was 11. One day, I noticed I couldn't see everything on a drawing I was trying to work on and realized that this was the same thing my mom complained about before getting a migraine. The blind spot soon went away, but the most horrible headache set in.

Migraines can take several different forms, including with or without this blind spot (called "aura"), extreme pain or pressure, and numbness/tingling on one side of the body.

I urge you to take him seriously. Migraines do not show up on a lot of head tests (including CT scans), but can lead to more serious problems, some of which are potentially life-threatening.

I can assure you that no one in their right mind would wish this sort of pain upon themselves. I have no idea where you heard that migraines are typically psychosomatic, but they are often caused by serotonin imbalances, other types of hormonal and chemical imbalances, and troublesome blood pressures.

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Date Joined Jul 2006
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   Posted 4/24/2010 10:24 PM (GMT -6)   
If you cannot afford insurance then most states will provide free healthcare for children under 18.  No matter what you think I strongly encourage you to at least get him covered.
I did not get migraines until I had fractured some of the verts in my spine.  But it does not show up on the typical tests for migraine, till they actually xray my spine.

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Post Edited (MMMNAVY) : 4/24/2010 9:34:31 PM (GMT-6)

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