Dear SupportiveHusband...I have been disabled for 17 years--3 years ago I finally got a diagnosis of Chronic Lyme Disease. I've been treated now, but I'm not back to normal even though I'm not getting sicker. I haven't been able to work, clean the house, cook dinners, do the wash, or go the grocery by myself in all that time. I'm weak, dizzy, forgetful and have almost daily migraines. I spend 95% of my day in bed on the computer or watching TV. My "Supportive Husband" works for a paycheck, cleans, cooks, does laundry, shops, walks the dogs, brings me coffee in the morning and somehow keeps a cheery attitude year after year. He is an engineer and more than anything he would just like to "fix" me. And it frustrates him terribly that the doctors can't. But he never gives up looking for an alternative treatment (most of which I ignore cuz they're too flaky, LOL) and he never gripes about how it all turned out differently than we planned. It sounds like you are a great husband, too. Lots of marriages where one person gets sick end in divorce. Just keep doing what you're doing...and if she gets too depressed for too long, get her some therapy and meds. I needed them and they helped.