I'm sorry, I completely missed this thread...I am sooooo sorry!!!!!!!!!!!!
All you have to do is update your information and it will show up where someone can click on the envelope or one of the other icons to send you an instant message if you have Yahoo or AOL Instant messaging.
See how under "Tysmyboo" my envelope is "lit" up...you can click on that and send me an email????
In order to do this all you have to do is...click on "CONTROL PANEL" (look to the top left....there is a blue bar....you have choices like "log off, control panel, home, calendar, chat, search, members, help") then click "edit profile" and then enter your email address, or home page or Yahoo messenger or whatever information you would like to use!
I will be checking back soon to make sure this works for you!