Hi Leigh Ann and Sara,
September is also my bad month, when the weather changes. It is so frustrating because I can't control it, no matter how much I am controlling all of my other factors.
Back to your questions Leigh Ann. At my worst I had a "Bad Migraine" 5 out of 7 days and a headache everyday. I got myself caught up in a bad cycle of rebound headaches and psychological stress.
If it helps any, I have a mother very similar to yours. I get calls filled with inuendo like "aren't your headaches gone yet?" I don't think my husband realized either how many and how bad they were either until I couldn't go on anymore and when I first went off sick I stayed in bed a lot.
Psychological counselling was where I started, with a lady that specializes in chronic pain. She has taught me about deep relaxation and I have a recorded relaxation that I use that helps me reduce the pain.
The next step was working with the neurologist to identify triggers and reduce painkillers. I have weaned off painkillers many a time. Sara talks about staying away from OTC medications and triptans and she's absolutely right. They're a nightmare. I am using Topamax and it's not working as well as my neurologist feels it should and he feels its because of the rebound headaches. I've gone from taking 20 - 30 painkillers a day to 2 Tylenol 3s and by the end of September I should be off them completely. I already see a huge reduction in my headaches.
Counselling also helped me see how much I was beating myself up for the headaches. I felt guilty when I had a headache, when I called in sick, when I took pain medication, when someone didn't believe me that I had a headache and I've learned it's not my fault. I have a sickness and it's okay to take care of myself.
I keep my mom at arm's length. I only see her when I'm strong enough to set boundaries, if not I don't need the hassle or the headache. I strive for stability and I don't let people or things knock it off. I exercise as much as possible. I set boundaries with my family, including my husband. I'm eating healthy, avoiding triggers and slowly reducing all of the medications causing rebound headaches.
I'm not there yet but I feel more optimistic than I have in a long time. I'm also taking some natural supplements that are helping, a multivitamin with extra B vitamins, melatonin to help me sleep and valerian root to calm me when I'm feeling really stressed. (I checked with my doctor on all these and he says they're okay).
I hope this helps a bit.
To answer your big question. I HAD HEADACHES EVERYDAY AND STILL DO SOMETIMES. IT IS POSSIBLE. AND ANYONE THAT SAYS ITS NOT DOESN'T KNOW WHAT THEY'RE TALKING about. I HOPE THAT HELPS YOU A BIT TOO.