Posted 10/3/2005 1:26 PM (GMT -6)
I finally have a day of respite from my headache after a week of suffering. I have been feeling guilty because I haven't had time to exercise, I've spent a lot of time in bed I've been worn out and I've been neglecting a lot of things in my life. With the relief came a chance to reflect.
Six months ago I was working with a headache each day, going home to bed and then repeating the pattern. When I asked for more medication the doctor put me on disability and I started to get better. I have moments where the headaches get bad again and life seems to stop and then I have a bright day where I can reflect and I realize how much life has changed.
I have learned to set priorities in my life. For me they are ME, My MARRIAGE, My INCOME (to keep a roof over my head), My RELATIONSHIPS (My family and friends), My EDUCATION (to move my career ahead).
Keeping these priorities in mind helps me minimize my stress. I do my best to exercise each day - even if I have a headache. Just a short walk can do a lot to naturally help me feel better. I take a multi vitamin. I eat healthy. I take time to myself. I get up and stick to a routine. I see my friends and family. I tell my husband how much I love him regularly.
What I've learned is that feeling guilty doesn't do anything. I am doing my best and as long as I remember my priorities I accomplish as much as is physically possible at that moment. I have also learned that worrying often makes my headaches worse by adding stress.
My life is very different now, though I do revert back to worrying and feeling guilty when I'm suffering. I thought this might be helpful to others who are experiencing similar situations.
The secret of health for both mind and body is not to mourn for the past, not to worry about the future, or not to anticipate troubles, but to live in the present moment wisely and earnestly. Buddha