I must concur with Philski and Beth, migraines make us ugly people. By nature I'm a friendly, outgoing, happy person. With migraines I'm a grumpy, depressed, frustrated person. It takes a toll on our marriages as well. I had half a mind to try and get my husband to write this message to you (but he's not the social one of the two of us ).
My migraines started up again soon after I met my husband (13 years ago) and have worsened severely during the last 5 years. The worst has been the last year during which I was off work for 6 months on disability. I know now that we can make it through just about anything.
As my headaches got worst we would fight a lot because we were angry and frustrated with the headaches. We've learned how to work together now and get mad at the headaches and fight them together. So now, instead of being angry at each other we're angry together at the headaches.
I get grumpy because I just can't wake up with another headache again. Or I don't want to go another day with a headache. I feel a lot of guilt because I miss a lot of things and have lost a lot of relationships with friends because I'm always sick. I don't make as much money because I can't do as difficult a job. I can't carry as much of the load at home and I often just want to lie in bed.
The thing that helped us was that I started seeing a psychologist that specialized in chronic pain. She taught me relaxation exercises, how to lighten up on myself and how to give my husband a break. My husband's not into counselling so he wouldn't go but that didn't mean I couldn't make changes that affected both of us.
Philski is absolutely right, try another neurologist. It may take many medications to find the one that works. Or another idea is push the current neurologist to try new things. It took a few visits for my neurologist to understand the severity of my migraines and my commitment to fixing the problem. Once he understood he was on the case and has been willing to try anything and everything. We've thrown everything against the wall to see what sticks.
Sorry this has been so long, I hope it helps. Good luck. Be patient. You and your husband will get through it.