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~Ashley~

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Joined : Jul 2006

Posts : 5

Posted 7/8/2006 9:34 PM (GMT -7)

Okkkkkkkkkkkk

I realize I don't really know a lot of you but i really need to vent if thats alright with everyone. Again, I'm 21 and I'm currently in university. I went to a class on Friday (summer classes) and, after telling my prof at the beginning of the sumemr that i get chronic migraines, I went to class with a migraine because, frankly, i really dont like missing classes. It makes me feel behind. Anyway, after laying my head down to listen to the lecture (these are fairly small classes), he singles me out and asks me why in the world i have my head down and i cant possibly pay attention to the lecutre. I go on to explain to him the situation and to also point out that im not disturbing anyone or myself and that i actually am taking in the lecture and all he can do is stand there and stare at me like im an idiot! I HATE IT!... I was so angry so i also 'reminded' him of the conversation we had had at the beginnning of the summer and his response of 'don't worry about it, take the time you need when you need it.' JEEZ what is wrong with some people...

!Ashley!

KtDan

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Joined : Jun 2006

Posts : 24

Posted 7/9/2006 7:46 AM (GMT -7)

Ashley,

I know its upsetting to you. My guess is this guy doesn't really get it. I think a lot of people abuse the "migraine exuse" some of who really don't get them or get bad ones, and because of it the rest of us suffer.

Probably, he forgot about it and is worried more about his classroom control. I've been a student and a teacher and I can be a little more compassionate than some others, but I've known some teachers who get a little too used to being the only one talking and aren't even willing to apologize when they've made a mistake.

I would talk to him again and for your own sake as a student, don't get angry, but just clear up with him what circumstances you might need. Try to think of it from his perspective. It's OK to vent here but don't do anything that will get you a bad rep at school. You want him to think of you as the ultra-serious student who drags yourself to class even when in pain, not as the bi***y hypocondriac. He is grading your exams.

Say something like:

I know that must of looked rude the other day. I came to class with a migraine because I really hate missing class. The actual class time is the most valuable part of the course, and I can't get it back if I'm out sick. I just get these too often to miss every time. I don't know how much you know about migraine, but its a disease which increases blood flow to the brain, causing headaches and often other symptoms like nausea, vomiting, numbness, loss of sight. Sensory stimulation, especially light aggravates it. It really helps me hear the lecture if I can "shut down" all the other senses as much as possible. Otherwise its just jackhammers in my head. That's why closing my eyes and putting my head down helped me listen.

Now that everyone in the class is aware of my situation because of Friday, would it be OK if I laid my head down if I need to? Also, if I run from the room, its because I'm going to be sick, so don't take offense.

Remember, even if he was rude and you were hurting and upset when he confronted you, you need him on your side.

Good luck

Kate

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