To AnnUK

Hi, it's me again.  I just wanted your opinion on something.  You mentioned in your last post to me that your 1st husband was mentally/verbally abusive to you and then after he left and your life settled down that's pretty much when you got smacked with anxiety and headaches.  That's what I've done.  He went on this binge, was arrested for DUI and was gone for 6 days, came home, got drunk again for another 8 days, so that's when I hid both check books, his ATM cards, took all the money out of his wallet and hid the car keys from him.  He had no choice but to get sober.  I am not kidding you, the whole time he was in jail, and then after he got home but remained drunk, I never had one headache, and I even slept on the couch which is not a good think to do!!!  The day after he sobered up, I was fine, still, no headaches, no symptoms of any kind, and then bam, headaches came back, neck, shoulder tension came back, my entire back, neck and shoulders feel like iron.  This morning when I woke up, I noticed that only my neck and back hurt and I was very tight and tense in those areas.  I knew that it wouldn't be long before I got a headache, and I did.  I also had a sinus headache along with the tension one.  I was like a cat on a hot tin roof as my Mother used to say, all day long.  I felt like I was on the verge on a terrible panic attack, I was breathing way too fast, the left side of my face felt "numb", it really wasn't, I could feel, it was just a funny feeling, but it disappeared.  So I pretty much "brain tumored" all day long.  Headache got worse.  By 10 o'clock tonight it was not severe, but I would say moderate in pain.  So, I took my Xanax, like I do every night, and about 30 minutes after taking that and my muscle relaxer, the headache was gone!!!!!!!!!!!  So, my question is this, do you really think these headaches are caused by the stress he's putting me under?  He has taken a week leave of absence from his job, and he's drinking again.  He didn't get drunk today, but he did drink.  Everytime I looked at him my head hurt a little worse.  I just find it odd that after I took my Xanax and my Skelaxin, the headache just vanished, it's completely gone!!!!!!!!!!  I want so much to believe that I don't have a brain tumor.  How many medical professionals have to tell me that I don't, especially given the fact that I've had a CT scan done on a brand new machine, top of the line, plus an MRI with and without contrast?  Why can't I just get over this horrible fear/phobia?  Do you think the Xanax and Skelaxin had anything to do with that headache going away like it did?

Hi Melanie,

Just to straighten things out a little, I have had migraines for over 30 years. When my first husband left they became very much worse, and the anxiety which I thought had gone came back with avengeance! Sorry If I was not clear about that.

Melanie it sound as if you have some faith, and I would love to be able to discuss it with you, but we are unable to do so here so please feel free to email me.

To get back to the point of your question, it sounds like your headaches are closely related to the tension and trauma you are going through at the moment, and also your fear/phobia re brain tumours is intense at the moment because of this stress. The situation with your husband does need to be resolved in some way, but I think you know that! If you email me we would be able to discuss this more freely!

The Skelaxin and Xanax will have helped you relax and thus got rid of your headache, but this was only because of their relaxing effects, not because they directly killed the pain of your headache!

You continue to be in my thoughts and prayers, take care

Ann