I have been having a hard time. Thursday we got a call from my ex b/f. My daughter's sperm donor so called father. He had left when I was 7 months pregnant. We had not seen or heard from him in over 3 years. Then he calls and asks "what the hell is going on." My Mom was the one who answered. She said she had no Idea. He said the state of Maine called him. He is living in Kansas. They want a DNA test and him put on the birth certificate. I told them he had a temper and it could be harmful for him to know anything. They told him my daughters name. He didn't even know if it was a boy or girl, name, birthday, if we both made it or if she was OK. Now with the help of them he knows how to get a hold of me, her name and how to spell it, around when she was born. I got one protective order that his other ex got on him for abuse to her and there child. I will be picking up another this week from another place. The state told me if I could get that and bring it in they would stop the process for DNA or anything more. I took the papers there they told me there was no such person there with that name (that I had talked to and even called back to get the spelling or her last name before we left) . They when on to tell me it would be my tanif worker who was doing this and deciding about it (this after I talked to 3 people in the child support collection department). So I had been on the phone Thursday, Friday all day. I went to bed Saturday morn 3am and got up 5:50am to start all over again doing what I could on a Saturday. I had a very bad anxiety attack. It put me in bed all of Saturday and most of Sunday. Then I get to start my day Monday with calling the state, a person I know who might be able to help me, and a person I don't even know in hopes to find an end to all this ASAP. Need I say I have had real bad headaches, belly sick, anxiety, panic, and it kicked up my PTSD. All because after over 3 year's the state thinks getting him involved in any way would be best for my daughter. I have know her sense before she was born who do they think they are telling me want they feel is best. I will update as things change.