I suffer too. I don't know what to tell you except I have said a prayer for you both.
I take different meds for mine......sometimes Bultalbitol, every 4 hours. Sometimes, Amitrypilene, sometimes Darvocette, and then sometimes I take a combination of 3 different meds together.....Muscle relaxer w/pain killer w/anti-inflamatory.... I bounce around because I have to deal with headaches on a daily basis. I also have had shots. They never helped enough. Good luck. Maybe a massage would help relax her if she is able to stand it. Iam so sorry, tell her that I totally understand. I had to quit working 5 days a week down to 3 day, and then I could not make even 3 days, so I just quit. It is soooo difficult.