Dear Kiera, I'm so very sorry you have so much to deal with. You are quite right..many of us don't have the added problem of spinal issues, on top of what is going on with MS.
There is one thing I've learned about chronic pain, and the meds usually prescribed for that: it's important to take them before the pain becomes a "9" (or worse)...they're more effective and you are much more comfortable if you take them when the pain begins to worsen, when the flareup starts...not when it is so very severe.
I did say that people experience pain differently, and what one person can "deal with" is extremely painful for someone else. You shouldn't judge yourself and your pain by what your husband describes as his....without being in his body (or he in yours) there is no way to be sure that you are both describing the same sort of pain. So whether he takes or doesn't take pain medication should have no influence on what you do to manage your situation!
As for your child...I don't know how old he is. But you might want to go to the National MS site, www.nmss.org and look around. There are links there to publications they can send you (for free) for ways to talk about your child about you having MS, materials written simply so they can understand. As you well know, children are very perceptive, and very often know much more than you think they know. And unfortunately children (and this is a developmental thing, not any sort of flaw!) think of themselves as the "center of their universe"...and so if something is "wrong" with Mommy or Daddy, it's THEIR fault, they are somehow to blame...
and since you and I shared our negative childhood experiences, I know you don't want your rugrat to grow up feeling that!!
Anyway, I do hope you can get with one or the other of your doctors and get all this stuff sorted out, and get on a regimen that really will help you. Take care.
"Be yourself. An original is always worth more than a copy."
Dx'd with Ulcerative Colitis (pancolitis) 2004 in remission...no meds!
2008...Multiple Sclerosis...Avonex once weekly