Stressed out like a "female dog"

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   Posted 7/8/2009 4:46 PM (GMT -6)   
Hi everyone, just wanted to check in and say that I am not liking life right now. I am going through a separation with my wife right now and actually went to the court house and filed for divorce after finding out my wife was having an affair. We have been together for almost 7 years and in Sept. it would be our 5 year anniversary....ugh. Anyway, I'm going out of my mind, just moved into an apartment and dealing with having the 2 kids part time instead of being there full time. That is pretty hard. I think that's when the stress comes out and depression. I feel alot of my symptoms flaring up and even though this Tysabri is doing a real good job, it can't help when you go through something like this. Anyways I'm trying to stay level headed and not go and beat up the guy she is with....."which i almost came close to doing this past Sunday" but I'm not going to get into that.

Well talk with you all later.....

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   Posted 7/8/2009 5:51 PM (GMT -6)   
Oh Andy!
I am so sorry!!!  Stress is a horrible thing for all of us but it is especially bad in MSers.  Please do everything you can to take good care of yourself.  I know that most of this is unavoidable.  It is not like you asked for any of this but do be careful!  Please be willing to ask for help.  Get anyone that you can trust to take some of this off of you.  You need help with the move.  You may need help with the kids, cooking, cleaning etc. 
If you haven't already, please check into getting and good counselor.  You are going to need someone to talk you through this!!  I am thinking of you.  Take care and thank you so much for letting us know. 
Gretchen  ~  diagnosed with MS July 2006
I have no lesions on my soul and so I will live with no limits.

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   Posted 7/10/2009 8:19 PM (GMT -6)   
Oh Andy,
So sorry to hear this. I know you said in your last post that she thinking of the separation, and I was hoping that you all could work it out. Try and stay stress free.
Thinking of you,
Dx MS December, 2006
Started Tysabri March, 2008
Zanaflex as needed

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   Posted 7/11/2009 12:36 PM (GMT -6)   
Thanks guys I really appreciate it!

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   Posted 7/23/2009 11:50 AM (GMT -6)   
Hi Andy
What a coincidence. I went to court on 9th July 09 for same purpose. My wife has filed for divorce. You have been married for 5 years and me separated for last 5 years, even though married since 1996. I know its depressing. Anyway life has to move on.
45 years Male Attorney
Diagnosed UC October 1989
Had two stage J Pouch Surgery Nov 2005; Take Down March 2006
Complications after surgery - Incisional Hernia and Ano Fistulas
"There are only two ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle: Albert Einstein
"What you are aware of you are in control of; what you are not aware of is in control of you."

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   Posted 7/23/2009 4:38 PM (GMT -6)   
What a small world.... Anyways I am doing a little better. I don't think about the whole thing as much, maybe it's because she has her little boyfriend. but the only thing i think that is really messing with me is the children.. My daughter keeps saying little things like "when r u and mom moving back into the same house" and her and my son are always saying they miss her so much when they r with me. But yea I'm sure it will all get better.

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   Posted 8/3/2009 6:13 PM (GMT -6)   
I'm sorry.  My husband and i split some time ago and i remember how it changed my son.  He didn't ask when we would be together again.  He knew we wouldn't be.  He never questioned it, but i see how he stares at families when they are out together laughing and enjoying themselves and i see a sadness take over him.  I don't say anything.  I give him a hug, i tell him i love him and i tell him hid dad loves him too.
Be well.

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   Posted 8/4/2009 10:07 PM (GMT -6)   
Andy -- I am so sorry. Hang in there!
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Diagnosed April 2007

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