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Tertle
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Date Joined Jul 2007
Total Posts : 108
   Posted 9/20/2009 3:52 PM (GMT -7)   
Hi all, I haven't really been around for a little bit but some of you might remember that I'm getting a divorce, found out wife was cheating on me....anyways things haven't gotten any better for me. I'm afraid that I'm seriously depressed and to make things worse, this past Fri night I got pulled over and charged with my first DUI. also some pretty hefty fines. money that I don't have at all. So the next morning i woke up and was feeling really down in a hole (a deep one) and felt almost like I didn't have a purpose anymore. I almost still do, and as I sit here with my two children which i thought would make me feel better, I don't at all. I have gone through alot these past 3 years ( my father dying, being dx'd with MS, falsely accused of a very serious crime, wife cheating on me, and going through this divorce, then the DUI) i feel like I'm being pounded into the ground deeper and deeper every day. I want to go get help, and my mother does also, but I just don't want to go that low. I don't want to sit in the hospital with a bunch of other people who want to die too. I also think maybe I should go get some help for my drinking, which unfortunately is becoming my crutch. Don't know what to do. Just wanted to get some stuff off my chest. Talk to you all later.
-Tertle(Andy)


tkeys
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Date Joined Jun 2009
Total Posts : 31
   Posted 9/20/2009 5:30 PM (GMT -7)   
Andy,

I'm sorry to hear everything you are going through. I honestly don't know the best advice to give except recommending that you seek help, for yourself and your children. They need their father. They need him well emotionally and physically. As you said, drinking is a crutch, and not a very good one at that. It would be ashame to hurt some one else in your pain. I know you don't want that, so you should seek some counseling and help for the drinking and/or depression related to all these stressors going on. I just want you to know I said a prayer for you and I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers. I wish you well. God bless!

Tkeys
Be completely humble and gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love.
Ephesians 4:2
 
23 years old;
Feb 2009 Dx: Acute Disseminated Ecephalomyelitis (ADEM)
Aug 2009 Dx: Brainstem Encephalitis August
 
Meds: Provigil, Nexium, Lexapro, Adivan, Baclofen, Topomax
 
Did 1000 mg IV solumedrol for 8 days then weened for 1 and a half months from mid Feb-late March
 

A merry heart does good like a medicine; but a broken spirit dries the bones.

Proverbs 17:22

 

"This too shall pass."


Lildaisy
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Date Joined Sep 2009
Total Posts : 8
   Posted 9/20/2009 6:10 PM (GMT -7)   
Sometimes when you're down and think that it just can't possibly get worse...it does. Or, it feels that way. In my opinion, you're letting your frustrations take control of you and it's literally causing you to spin in the wrong direction. All that is going on in your life can be controlled...if you let it. You have to pick yourself up and say "today IS going to be a good day". It's so very, very hard especially when you have questions in your head and feel down and out. But, YOU have control of all of this. This is a trying time in your life and you can't let it get the best of you. You have to beat it. And, I've been to one of those hospitals and it's not what you think it is. It's actually very helpful and extremely positive. It helped me tremendously and made me a totally different person because we all helped each other out and I heard far worse cases/stories than my own. You can get through this...just allow yourself to! Stay positive!

Tertle
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Date Joined Jul 2007
Total Posts : 108
   Posted 9/21/2009 6:57 PM (GMT -7)   
Thanks for the comments guys. I unfortunately haven't felt any better yet but I do have an appointment with my therapist on Wed. I agree with you Lildaisy, It is very hard to say that today is going to be a good day, especially when this whole cheating thing gets thrown in my face by my own children, which the really like this guy and are always talking about him to me. I guess though its better than the alternative. at least he is nice to them but still. Well we'll have to see what my therapist says on Wed. I will post back. Thanks again.
-Tertle(Andy)

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