I am too very sorry to hear about your situation. MS is a hard one to swallow. Does your mom know that there are several types of MS? Which type does she have? Education is everything. If she can understand where she is then she can make plans to get where she wants to go. I read a quote somewhere and it goes something along the lines of "People with MS don't have to give up on achievements they just have to find a different method of getting there". After everything that has happened to your mom, the surgery and all, I can say from experience that it is hard to keep going. What if something happens again? What if something else goes wrong? But I have kids, 11, 15, 17 and even though there are more days than not that I am worried about my health, I promised myself to learn about my body and my diseases and to enjoy as much as I can. I wiah you all the luck and I hope you get your mom back on track. Gretchen1 is right about support groups.