Hi there - I am glad that u dumped youroriginal neurologist, as this guy is a jerk...for thinking that MS does not carry with it pain, and two, for the obnoxious comment he made to your husband about you!
Both cases, he was wrong.
Most of my MS symtpoms that cause pain are as with u - my neck and my shoulders. I get a burning sensation right in the back of my neck, like someone is holding a lit cigarette there, which comes and goes....I am told that this is nerve pain. I also get lots of muscles spasticity - shrinking fo the muscles in the shoulder that makes it very sore and sometimes my range of motion is limited..
For me, and this is me, I take ativan, which helps relax the tension im my neck and shoulders, which has jelped me quite qwell, but it relaxes me overall - which I do need.... I know that there are drugs out there to relieve muscle tension and also nerve pain, but I do not at this moment know the name of these drugs....
Massage can be benefical as well, to help lessen the tension and pressure that these tight muscles do to the back of your neck....
Take care and have a good day