I decided to respond before reading the previous responses because I am interested in seeing what they said .
I had kind of thought the same thing as you but my delima is somewhat different. First of all I am a female and single (42 and no children)
I guess that I am one of those with age comes beauty type of women because when I was younger I couldn't buy a date . After the age of 38 I had to fight the men off and it is getting worse as each year passes. Now on to the issue.
My MS dxs came in June of this year, but 5 years prior I was dxd with lupus but I still had pretty much of the same health problems and symptoms that I have now with the exception of the severeity, new symptoms, progression, etc. When men would ask me out I could never just make plans to dinner and the movies and heaven forbid dancing. I had always been straight forward about my illness but for some reason most of the men I'd meet would let their little egos get crushed and not bother to settle for a nice evening at my home or some other alternative. I did finally meet a guy who has a sister with lupus so I thought AT LAST my day in the sun! (no pun intended)
Well that was short lived because he wanted to compare my disease and abilities to that of his sisters. I was always having problems but his sister was in remission but at the time I did not know that I actually had MS. Anyways it became too stressful because after a few months, he too expected me to swing from chandeliers and be there at a moments notice. None were willing to research so I knew that these were not the right companions for me.
After long and serious thought I decided that from here on out I will opt to date a man with a disability. I prefer to date a man with many interests and other commonalities and I feel that my physical challenges are just not conducive for dating a more physically abled man. If one had come along that worked out then fine, but it hasn't so I have opted for a change. Years ago before I ever dreamt of a disability I dated an amputee. It was one of the most wonderful dating experiences that I ever had but I ended it because I knew that he wanted children and I learned during our relationship that I needed a hysterectomy. He did go on to marry and have 2 fine boys.
I recently met a man in my complex who is a paraplegic. He is really nice and we get along great. Our interests are the same and we have spent hours together talking. I noticed a few weeks ago that he began to pull away after he noticed that I was no longer using my wheelchair. I thinkthat I know what the problem is and I am giving him his space but I plan to eventually go and talk to him about MS. I think that he feels that I may no longer be interested in him because I am not using my chair. He needs reassuring but at the appropriate time.
Wow I am supposed to be assisting you and offering support and here I've typed my whole life story. Sorry.
I wish you the best, I am sure that the right woman will come along that will love you for you .