My best friend of 15 years hasn't called since I was diagnosed. In her defense though, we were down to a single phone call about every six months because I moved and she got married ect. What really stuck with me is when I called her about 6-9 months after the initial diagnosis I heard a baby in the background on the phone and it was hers! She was not suppose to be able to get pregnant or be able to carry a baby with her medical
condition(s). It hurt really bad that she didn't tell me till I asked! She has been to see me but once (I have gone to see her several times since I moved). After that phone call, I lost her number and have waited for her to call or come by...
Moving closer to home, my FAMILY doesn't want to hear it or deal with it either, for the most part. Denial helps them cope, I think. Until recently, they seemed very happy and comfortable with not talking about it or dealing with it. And now I am starting to realize that is ok. My mom has taken my most current significant relapse to heart. She has been recently told that she is going blind and there is not much that can be done about it. Then I relapse. She was here for me 100%, but I hate to see her cry and drink to cope when I call her on the phone later. With this last relapse, because it was so significant and not new news that I have MS, I got to see that they do love and care and realize that I DO have MS, but I also got to see all the stress it can cause.
It took my family two years to come around, and it hurt A LOT! I am sure that things will slip back to the way it was very soon, denial seems to be a happy place for *them*. And that is ok because I know now that they are here when I need them the most.
Maybe your friend just needs some more time to process what is going on with you. She is also pregnant, so her hormones are out of whack to begin with along with a major life change for her as well. Trust me, I know we need those that are closest to us in times like these, maybe she just needs more time to deal with it on her own before she can be there for you fully. Maybe not, I don't know.
Diagnosed with Multiple Sclerosis September 2003 currently taking Aricept 10mg PO QD, Welbutrin XL 300mg PO QD, and Provigil 200mg PO BID.