That's horrible! I'm so sorry to hear about that. Can you go to your HR dept and talk to them? Is there maybe a desk job of some kind that you could xfer to or record dept? It's got to be hard if you enjoy your job.
I didn't want to make waves at my place right away, but my boss ( who is very needy and pushy ) was pushing me for information on why I was taking so many of my personal days for dr visits and why I wasn't 'myself', I seemed 'off'. I think he was trying to be the 'shoulder to cry on', but he was coming off on being the nosey guy. Back in March last year I had found a lump in my breast and with all the dr appts (gyno, radiology, ultrasound, radiology again, surgeon, gyno) I eventually told him what was going on. This has been going on for a tad longer and he's pushing me. But I digress.. since he was doing this and I was telling him nothing, he was becoming annoyed with me and starting to cop an attitude ( oh yeah, I'm the only woman in the IT dept of 11 people).
I went to my HR dept friend and talked to her in confidence that she would tell no one. She basically stated since she knows my boss as well that it probably would not be a good idea to even let him know anything until I absolute have to. I'm starting to drown in my work, when I used love the challenge and now I can barely get my daily stuff done let alone the multitude of projects.
I am married but the problem here is, I'm the money maker of the family. I make much more than my husband and if I were to lose my job we would be in a world of hurt. When I started noticing the brain wasn't as sharp as it used to be, I started hinting around to my hubby that maybe he should take that promo at work that has been offered so many times or look for a job that pays more $$ and he has no interest in that at all. So that stress is starting to take it's toll...
Thanks for the shoulder to cry on, I needed that.
I'm with you, if this is how my life is going to be from now on whether it's MS or not, I've got to figure something out because I'm a smart person darn it, but the words, actions, thought process are not there anymore. I have noticed some days are much better than others... moments of clarity my hubby has been calling them, which is very true. Anything that you have found that works for you, please let me know. Thanks again Carla!
I not only use all the brains that I have, but all that I can borrow.
Author: Woodrow Wilson (1856-1924), 28th U.S. President