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   Posted 2/15/2007 12:17 PM (GMT -7)   
This is no big deal but it kinda hurt my feelings. Today my sister was driving me to work. We were stopped at a redlight and I said there's 4 lights again. Usually we just start joking about having to wait for all 4 to turn green. This morning my sister said u need to get that out of ur mind. Before the dr. told u that u had ms for sure u never complained about this stuff. I felt like she was saying that my symptoms were all in my head. They were there before but I just thought my old head injury was causing them so I didn't say anything. I didn't mean to be complaining. I only brought it up to make a joke about it. If u laugh about things they don't seem so bad. I thought she understood. I guess I was wrong. Maybe ya'll are the only ones I can talk to about all this stuff. Well,
I'm at work and needtp do sme. Just wanted to get this off my chest.



Post Edited (mesea) : 2/15/2007 12:29:02 PM (GMT-7)

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   Posted 2/15/2007 12:27 PM (GMT -7)   
Awwww Sheila so sorry your feelings were hurt. I think sometimes family doesn't know how to deal with this MS thingy and sometimes they hurt our feelings without meaning too. Maybe she is wishing and hoping deep down in her heart that this is not true that you have MS or maybe she is hurting because someone she loves so very much is sick and she can't do anything about. She could also be in denial like what we go through. It's just as hard for our family members and friends sometimes to know what to say or how to act around us. Maybe try to talk to her and let her know how you feel. How about she read our forum? Just a thought.

Lots of hugs to you sweetie
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   Posted 2/15/2007 12:28 PM (GMT -7)   
Hey Sheila

Oooo my friend, i'm sorry. It just stinks when someone..who u feel understands and accepts u'r situation...seems to have bailed on u. I truely don't believe they can fully understand even tho they try very hard. It's just something u have to experience to know about. Don't give up on her tho. I know u'r very close to her and this really hurts, but talk to her and explain as u have here. I bet it'll make a difference. Even still tho, u do have us and we do understand. Yes, with a confirmed dx u can finally assign a reason to all the quarky things that have been or are going on, but as many of us here do, u don't understand if u don't know why it's u make sense of it the best u can by assuming it's this or that..and u accept it as part of life. That's what u did and now that u finally have an answer u can accept it. Part of acceptance is letting it out...letting it be known. Making jokes is a great way to do that..and it eases the tension. Keep letting it and elsewhere as well. It's up to them to accept it now and just because u don't talk about it doesn't mean it's not there. Hang on friend and don't let this get to u. We're all here for u.

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Post Edited (rhondab) : 2/15/2007 12:33:23 PM (GMT-7)

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   Posted 2/15/2007 2:14 PM (GMT -7)   
You cheer up and don't let her get you down. 4 lights are better than 8!! LMBO! (laughing my butt off) Sorry. Just trying to brighten your day!!

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   Posted 2/15/2007 4:03 PM (GMT -7)   

Awww Sheila I'm sorry.  Maybe you could have a talk with your sister?  I doubt her words were meant to hurt you, she might just be having a rough time dealing with your diagnosis because she cares about you.  Don't stop with your jokes and laughing about it if it helps.  We'll always be here for you if you need us.



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   Posted 2/15/2007 4:17 PM (GMT -7)   


I too am at work. Why is that important to the post?... my boss and the other members of my
dept, decided when they came in, that because we had new snow at the resorts, they would all
take the day off and hit the slops and let the old guy with MS hold down the ship.

I have been skiing since I was 7 years old and I used to be on the ski patrol and a pretty good skiier. Now I am just the old guy with MS.

Yes, it hurts when people take advantage of us, it hurts when people don't understand. And .....the darn disease hurts. Nothing about this disease makes sense and nothing is going to
make it better for most of us. And frankly, if the truth be told, we might have acted the same way
towards somebody that had the disease.

Ya, know how when you speak to an audience, they tell you to imagine them naked? I imagine what my friends and even some members of family would say or do, if they go this disease or just spent one day in my body.

We are survivors because we must be. Hang in there.


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