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snowdog
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Date Joined May 2006
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   Posted 3/30/2007 2:26 PM (GMT -7)   
My wife says I do nothing but obsess over MS. She says I need to get over it. (Not get over the disease, but get over HAVING the disease)
 
She says this not because I talk about it endlessly, or use it for excuses or anything like that, but because every now and again....I will email her or bring something up, that I read on a forum, or a letter from the local MS organization, or perhaps something announced on television.
 
Like most people with MS, I am curious about the disease, the symptoms, and always thinking or better still...wondering, if others feel like I do. MS is so surrealistic. Everyone knows what a cold feels like. But even those that have MS, may not find someone else with MS that has the same symptoms. So taking an active interest in the disease is not obsessive to me.
Anyone else been accused of being obsessed?
 
Dog
SPMS

rhondab
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   Posted 3/30/2007 3:13 PM (GMT -7)   
Awww Dog, i'm sorry! I totally understand tho! I guess i'd be accused of obsessing as well. I'm not dx'd, but certainly find this all very interesting as well as important to know. IF i have ms i want to know ALL there is to know about it...including other people's experiences and symptoms. I think it'd help me to know about myself and my symptoms and be prepared should i encounter the same as others have. I haven't been accused yet, but i tend to keep all my studies and such very low key since i'm not dx'd. Best wishes to u and u'r sweet wife. I'm sure she's concerned that u'r focusing too much on this, but maybe explain to her that it'd be better to know in advance what to possibly expect than to be broadsided by it. Hang in there!
rhonda
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Gretchen1
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   Posted 3/30/2007 4:14 PM (GMT -7)   

Hey dog,

That is a bummer.  When I was diagnosed it was strange to see how people reacted.  I have one friend/co-worker that doesn't want to hear anything about MS ever.  It is very odd.  I think it must be fear related.  Talk to your wife about her fears.  I share articles, news, updates with my husband and he is okay with it.  Your wife sounds scared to me.  Try not to take it personally.  People deal with this sort of thing in all different ways.  Good luck and know that here, there are people who can relate to what you are going through.

Love and prayers,


Gretchen
 
diagnosed: MS  July 2006
Treatment: copaxone, prayer, laughter, and positive thinking


uppitycats
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Date Joined Jun 2005
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   Posted 4/1/2007 12:36 PM (GMT -7)   
snowdog said...
My wife says I do nothing but obsess over MS. She says I need to get over it. (Not get over the disease, but get over HAVING the disease)
 
She says this not because I talk about it endlessly, or use it for excuses or anything like that, but because every now and again....I will email her or bring something up, that I read on a forum, or a letter from the local MS organization, or perhaps something announced on television.
 
Like most people with MS, I am curious about the disease, the symptoms, and always thinking or better still...wondering, if others feel like I do. MS is so surrealistic. Everyone knows what a cold feels like. But even those that have MS, may not find someone else with MS that has the same symptoms. So taking an active interest in the disease is not obsessive to me.
Anyone else been accused of being obsessed?
 
Dog
SPMS
I found out a long time ago that NO ONE is as interested in MS as *I* am! :)  Not my spouse, not my friends, co-workers, NO ONE. Except maybe folks who also have MS.... and so I share stuff on forums like this, but otherwise keep my mouth shut.  I've had MS for 24 years. My husband has not read ONE book on MS. He has read the occasional article, but only if they show up in magazines he normally reads -- like Scientific American, or Nature, or Discover.  I only mention my MS when it'll directly affect him, and I'm needing his assistance.  Otherwise, it's between me, myself, and I...and occasionally you, if I respond to a post on your thread! :)
 
 
...I am not a doctor, nor health professional, and don't pretend to be one, here.....


shellypoo
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   Posted 4/1/2007 12:54 PM (GMT -7)   
Likewise for me.  I have friends that have MS that can relate but my husband has very good health with some arthritis pain but no disease process.  I suppose to him I obsess, too...just like your wife accuses you of.  In our minds we are just wondering about the process of our disease and treatment, symptoms etc, but to them it is and obsession!  Oh how I wish I had nothing disease related to think about!!  LOL!
 
Hang in there Snowdog, you can come here and vent anytime!
Michelle ><>
Co-Moderator MS forum
 

Ever stop to think, and forget to start again???


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