Welcome! I’m so sorry to hear about your health problems and your long battle for diagnosis, and hope that your next neuro will be able to give you some answers. While I’m not sure the specifics of your situation, I do know that MS can be diagnosed without lesions on the spinal cord, however there are many different things that can cause lesions besides MS. What did the second neuro attribute the new lesions on your second MRI to? The fact that it showed new lesions does sound pretty suspicious of some sort of disease activity along with all of your symptoms. Hopefully the new neuro will take this very seriously. Have you had any additional testing for MS such as a spinal tap or evoked potentials?
I also went through several neuros, one of whom was really, really rude and totally dismissive. One thing that I’ve found helps tremendously is to take someone with me to an appointment. I know this sounds funny, and I feel like I’m a big girl now and can handle a doctor’s appointment by myself (lol), but for some reason having a second person in the room really changes the whole dynamic. The two times I have done this the docs were way less dismissive, I got a more thorough exam, and my docs actually sat there and took the time to answer questions.
I did this once with my old pcp who was generally quite dismissive, and it was the one occasion when he was really nice. The second time I took a friend to my first visit with my current neuro, and the neuro spent around 90 minutes with me….yes, I did say 90 whole and entire minutes (the nurse finally pulled him away, lol). My friend was extremely familiar with my symptoms and history mentioned all sorts of stuff I would have totally left out, and she really stepped up and grilled him (I honestly tend to kind of freeze with a glazed expression on my face and not say much when I get to the docs). Anyway, while she was grilling him, I played the polite, submissive patient, and that combo seemed to really work. The neuro was not only helpful, he was actually friendly and chatty. Go figure.
Anyway, I don’t know if any of the above will help, but best of luck with your new neuro, and please do let us know how everything turns out for you.