We just keep on running into one another here!
In response to your post, I've not taken the "life-coping" pharmaceuticals, but I have taken Xanax (when I started my series of surgeries my doc who is definately anti-med wanted me as calm as possible. xanax is situational anxiety medication - as in some serious event that may freak you out.
I also have a standing relationship with diazapam - the generic form of valium. it's ridiculous to take valium brand name cause the generic is precisely the same. I began taking diazapam because my fiancee is a surgeon and as I struggled with endometriosis he found it was more effective than painkillers since it is primarily a muscle relaxant. Not an oozing on the floor muscle relaxant, but a "isolated muscle group" muscle relaxant. During my 90-day ostomy-less period I took one in the morning and one in the evening, which was probably the only way I lasted 90 days at all without serious changes to my personality.
We don't know one another so I can't speak on your stress levels or how you deal with stress, but it's well documented that women especially store stress in the stomach. I don't know. Go for a few different opinions. I also kept with acpuncture for 4 years, it was expensive but reduced my stress levels significantly and endometriosis is intensified immensely by stress so if my stress levels went up i was debilitated, which I could not afford. Note: i continued with diazapam while doing acupuncture.
the prozacs, wellbutrins, effexors all have a distancing effect that my friends who have spent timeon them resent(ed). the same friends have at some point tried diazapam around serious life stressors (my stepmom reently when my sister and i were in a serious car accident as the third in a string of 'bad luck' expensive events ina three-day period) and were much more comfortable with the effect. you just relax, you keep your mind, access to your emotions, etc. just come down a couple of notches in terms of how you "deal" with stressors, how much you allow situations to stress you. I can ask my boyfriend for a "medical" explanation - again. I used to REALLY fight the medications, i was a yogic-breathing something per my upbringing by a yogi/sensei. however, there is a place for pharmaceuticals and it is worth bearing in mind they are usually derivatives of several natural products put into pill form.
MY greatest fear was addiction. Now I am glad I had access to the help I needed because I needed it. I don't need it now so i don't take it. My last diazapam/valium was in the hospital a couple of days ago before discharge and even then I only took them when I'd had an 'exciteable' day (2 hour conversation about
my dad's health) otherwise i was just on my pain meds for post-op pain.
I have been advised to used diazepam to assist with elimation (not with ostomy, but prior to ostomy discussion). Obviously it's a medication I am comfortable with and I can say it has served a positive purpose in my life. It is NOT in the same league as the anti-depressants by any stretch of the imagination. I was shocked when I learned I was taking valium cause i knew valium was suppposed to be some big thing, but 10 mg is not 100 mg or whatever abusive levels are.
I'll be happy to ask my questions if you like and get answers.