I am glad you are seeking advice and doing research. However, I doubt you or I will ever be "normal." For some here, have 10 bowel movements a day is "normal" as for me, I am still a work in progress. As far as having an ostomy, it is not too bad. Certainly, I would not have one if I did not need it, but I begged my Dr for a bag. I was willing to do what ever needed to be done so I could have a BM without laxatives. Yes, I am married. The experience of having an ostomy while married really depends on the marriage. My husband is wonderful. He only wants what is best for me. Does he like that I have a bag, probably not. Lets face it, there is NOTHING sexy about having a bag. Then again, there is nothing sexy about having a wife who looks pregnant all the time and vomits because she has so much stool empacted in her intestines. If you have a supportive husband then having a bag should not be a huge strain on the marriage.
I am sorry that you have so much stool backed-up in your system. Are they helping you remove the stools? Can you take anything to help you go? Even now with the ileostomy, I live on prune juice. Can you drink that and take a few laxatives?
I truly hope you find some relief very soon.
Revised Coletomy/ Reset Anastimosis 2006
Revised Colectomy/ Obstructions 2005
Sub-total Colectomy 2001
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