Wow ~ six sisters ~ that must've been fun growing up! My husband has five sisters, and I thought that was a lot! I'm sorry that one of your other sisters had to go through being sick, too, and without a supportive husband. I just don't understand how some people can be that selfish to not support someone who is sick.
Anyway, it sounds like this sister has lots of support from her husband and help with the children, meals, and the upkeep of the house, which is great! One thing that would've helped me after my ileostomy surgery would have been if someone kept a close eye on my hydration.
Let me explain...
My ileostomy took 10 days to work. I started throwing up, since nothing was passing through, and they took me off the IV fluids too soon. When my ileostomy did start working, it put out pure liquid like crazy, which on top of the vomiting, caused me to become severely dehydrated. I just wanted to point out that this can happen, because I found out the hard way, and I don't want anyone to have to go through what I went through.
So, it would be helpful if someone could visit her every day and make sure they don't take her off the IV fluids too soon. I hope her surgery goes really well. Please keep us posted on how she's doing.
Dx'd Crohn's in '99 at 28. Proctocolectomy & ileostomy in '06.
Pain-free, med-free, and very thankful to be healthy again :)