IMHO, and this is MY opinion, but I think you should tell him. I do not think keeping something this major from someone you love or have a close relationship like that with is a good idea. You will need support and help. Who better to give it to you than those you are closest to? And, if he is worth having even as a friend, he would try to understand, help and support you through this. If he doesn't then as hard as it may be, he isn't worth it. These are the times we need our spouses, significant others, family and friends. You SHOULD NOT try to do this alone, and you do not have to. Just look at all of the posts, just on this forum, that are from loved ones trying to better understand, and trying to find out the best ways to help someone going through what we are. Please don't feel you need to hide. You deserve the love. You deserve the support. You have nothing to be ashamed about or to hide. YOU DESERVE ALL OF THIS FROM HIM. He may not understand right away, but having someone around to hold your hand, or kiss your forehead, can make all the difference in the world.
We all had the same fears as you when we told our loved ones, I'm sure. You are not stupid for feeling the way you do, but just know that you deserve a man that will love you no matter what. Whould you support him if say, he were going through some sort of surgery? Whould you want him to tell you?
Good Luck with whatever you decide! If you do decide to tell him, ask us for advice, maybe we can help you think of ways to approach the subject. I just really think that we all deserve our closest relationships to be open and honest, and then we can use the strentgh of our loved ones when we need it. Ya' know?
UC diagnosed: December, 1999
Asacol: 1600 MG daily
Immuran: 150 MG daily
Prednisone: 4 MG daily (Woo-Hooo! Getting lower and lower!)
Remicade: Infusion every 7 weeks
Probiotics 4 billion CFU Daily
Glutamine 500 mg 2x Daily
OFF all meds!! Liver failure, and emergency surgery as soon as liver levels return to normal. ACK!
Surgery August 24, 2007. Home now!