I would highly suggest the bulk up diet too. I had a temp ostomy after rectal cancer 9 years ago. I have been left with multiple bm's each day. My entire goal is to keep the stool formed, easily passed since I have anywhere from 12 to 20 bm's. Small amounts each time. I went on a low residue diet post-take down and have never looked back. My doctors approve of this diet. If I were to eat high fiber, whole wheat products, lots of raw and fresh fruits and produce, I'd be a real mess.
I feel my best when I eat 2 cups of vanilla flavored organic yogurt a day (Brown Cow is my favorite brand right now, found in the health food chilled section of my local Kroger's), am and pm, bananas, plain foods such as turkey subs on white bread, chicken pot pie, baked or broiled chicken or turkey, fish such as halibut, haddock or salmon, cottage cheese, white rice, applesauce, pretzels, Club Cracker saltines with salt (they are the best!), Pepperidge Farm Bordeaux
cookies (for some odd reason they add bulk), plain english muffins (Bay's, found in the refrigerator section of the grocery), plain bagels, plain cereals such as Cheerios, Rice Krispies, Special K w/o fruit, Corn Flakes, etc.
I would also suggest he keep a food journal, writing down every single thing he eats.
I also feel best when I don't bombard my system with 3 large meals but rather 4 to 6 small meals through out the day. 2 crackers, 2 pieces of cheese, 2 grapes, or half a banana, for examples.
Avoid carbonated beverages, soda, strong coffee or tea, although I find weak, mild hot tea soothing to my gut, go figure....
The foods I avoid now are - any whole wheat product, fresh berries (blackberry, red raspberry, strawberry), fresh pineapple, chocolate, chewy candy, nuts, spicy foods, salads with fresh baby greens, nuts, dried fruit. Iceberg or romaine salads are okay, but in moderation.
Just do a google - low residue diet - you'll find lots of info.
Finally, stress is important too. When we have a very busy schedule, I usually get very messed up. The two go hand in hand. So I have perfected the art of saying no. If invited to an outing that I know is impossible for me to attend, I politely say no, I'm sorry, I have other plans. Even if those plans are sitting on my couch, cuddling with my hubby and dog, watching a movie, etc. I just don't overload my calendar and definitely know my limits now.
I wish him my very best. I thought my life would be over, post-temp-ostomy. I would have 3 bm's during each meal. As soon as I chewed, I had to go. I joked I'd taking my meals in the bathroom from now on. Here I had been on the healthy high fiber, fresh fruit type diet and I was a real mess. The low residue diet literally saved me from having to retreat from the world. I faithfully stayed on it for 2 years. I was able to go places and take trips with my family. But I had to stay on that diet.
Keep thinking of more things I did back then, I stopped eating right after dinner each night. If were hungry in the evening, I would have 2 tall glasses of water, tricking my stomach into thinking that was food. I did this so I could get a full night's sleep without having to get up for more bm's. It worked. I slept great. I in turn refrained from meals for social outings (weddings, long car trips), but would make sure I ate well earlier in the day or when I got home. I learned that timing of when to eat and not to eat, greatly helped me also.
I still have a hard time socializing with large groups and eating a meal. I usually pick at my food and then ask for a doggy bag. They all think I'm not hungry, when truth be told I was starving, but I didn't want to take a chance on putting all that food into my system. I wish I could just tell people I can't eat in public. But then you have to go into long explanations with people who have normal colons. So I order light portions and nibble. Faking it really.
PS - this is a random comment, but my family is into watching old seasons of Survivor. On several players have been known to say they didn't have bm's for a week or more. One player said he hadn't gone in 2 weeks. All he was eating was white rice and fish. I just looked at my family and joked - I'm going on Survivor! Seriously though, lately I've been making 1 cup of Minute Rice each day for lunch. It takes 5 minutes in the microwave and 5 minutes to cool. I add a little margarine and salt. It doesn't taste great but it does thicken things up. Just a thought...
Post Edited (Marsky) : 5/10/2008 12:31:51 PM (GMT-6)