I had my colectomy and ileostomy due to UC. I was leaning towards the operation, and then my liver began failing because of all the meds, so it became a no- brainer.
I can tell you this. The surgery is a big one. It isn't fun or easy. HOWEVER, it is sooo worth it, at least it was for me. I felt a zillion times better with my ileo. I went back to the gym because I finally had energy again. I lost 60 pounds of pred weight. The surgery itself is painful while you recover. But you get good pain meds! The ileosotmy does not hurt to touch - it doesn't have nerve endings, so that impossible. You can develop sores around the stoma, and those may itch or hurt a little, but not everyone gets them.
I am opting for a jpouch. I had step two of my three step process a couple weeks ago. I can't wait for step 3 and to have this over with, I can tell you that! But I do wish I had done this long ago. I'm a girl, so I can't help on the guy stuff :). What else? Oh - I went back to work a couple motnhs after my first surgery. My recovery was a little long, because I was so so sick going into it.
I will tell you that the healthier you can be when you go into surgery the better, So take care of yourself.
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